I'm 30 and my partner is in his mid twenties. We have been together for almost 8 years and we have a dd who is 2 and I am 21 weeks pregnant with a ds. We've been through a lot together- our dd was born with serious health problems, so we've been through numerous hospital stays and coming to terms with a long term prognosis that isn't great. Despite all that she is doing great at the moment and is such a happy, easygoing little girl!
When I was younger I always dreamed about having my own little family and we'd be loving and fun with plenty of family days out, lots of laughing and joking, meals round the table, helping each other clean up etc. We'd also be motivated and be eager to decorate our home, do some gardening and generally enjoy each other's company. I know this seems like an idealised vision of family life but this honestly what I had hoped for!
Our daily life is nothing like this. Our house is a mess, we've been here a year and we haven't even managed to put carpet down yet. If I suggest days out (like I did this morning) I'm met with grumbles and avoidance of the question. I would have taken dd on my own but she isn't able to walk yet and at almost 2.5 she is getting heavy and I struggle on my own. So instead today we have done nothing. Dp is currently asleep on the sofa while I play with dd.
Instead he has spent the whole day asking if we can have sex (like I'm going to say yes at 2pm while dd presumably watches tv?!) and trying to grope me- he thinks I'm a complete prude because I don't want to have sex more than once a week. He is always grabbing at my chest and thinks I'm strange for not liking it!
He is a good dad to dd but in a 'fun dad' sort of way- he never changes nappies, changes her clothes, prepares her food or anything like that. He never wants to take her for a day out. I carry her to bed every night but I worry as I get bigger I won't be able to. There are many other things but I don't want to bore anyone!
I know that I am not easy to live with anymore because every day I hope it'll be better and when it's not I cry. A lot. Sorry for the long post I just wanted to get everything off my chest as the only person I can tell is one close friend but she has her own things going on so I don't want to lean on her too much! I'm just wondering if anyone has left a relationship (not because of cheating, abuse etc) whilst pregnant?
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Thinking of leaving but I'm pregnant
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Hadenoughoftumble · 04/06/2016 17:51
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