WWYD - Love but don't fancy my DH

[LondonDove]

DH has always been very overweight but when I saw his butt this morning it really wasn't a nice sight. I realised I don't find him remotely physically attractive except for his face.

I always struggled with how obese he was but told myself love is worth more than something so shallow. I guess I always thought he'd do something about it - if not for me then for his health.

And my love is different now too. Not the passion it used to be. I'm too knackered and life-weary for that now! I don't think I've fallen out of love and I don't hate him, but I don't want sex with him. I can't get interested even though I do want sex and affection. Just not with him (not is there anyone else before you ask).

Should I even raise it with him or put up and shut up as he was like this when we met?

[TheNaze73]

Didn't you realise that his obesity was going to be a problem when you got together? I can't fathom getting together, with someone that didn't float my boat completely.
I think you need to speak to him though, it's not fair on either of you.

[RainbowsAndUnicorns25]

Approach it from a health point of view.
I know from bitter experience that you'll only make things worse if you say I don't fancy you because you're fat, there's no need to say that.
Tell him you love him dearly and you're worried about his health.

[1tsonlyme]

If its got to that point I would go and tell him what you think,and what your fears are but you must have a back up plan to help him. Sometimes the truth hurts but it might make him do something about it. You could support him, do it together you for fitness him for weight loss. Only you know what his reaction would be so it's your choice.