I have had a few threads on here so I won't waffle on, but I need some practical advice / tips for how to help 4yo DS following on from a domestic incident where he saw me hit and was hit himself in quite a violent outburst where the police had to be called.
The person who did this has learning difficulties (but knew what she was doing) and Ds sees her as his best friend. How do I tell him they can't play together any more? Ds is desperate for her to apologise - do I let this happen and then manage it so they just don't see each other again? He has asked several times a day if she is ready to say sorry yet, so it is a big deal to him. I don't want them to see each other again but I don't know if that's the right thing.
Conversely to the above, Ds is also very scared at the moment - we saw her in the street and he hid behind the wall, then shouted "sorry!" After her. I have explained he doesn't need to say sorry and he got very upset. How do I tackle this?
I don't want to give him a complex that if he is "naughty" then he won't get to see people again. Is there a way to explain this?
Also, the police are making a social services referral because it was a domestic incident. I am paranoid and anxious and a bit of a mess about this. My house has never been cleaner or tidier which I know is stupid, but can any one tell me what will happen? No one has been in touch yet and it happened on sat.
Is there any advice sheets or something to help children after this sort of thing? Am I missing doing something obvious?
I went back to work yesterday and Ds really didn't want me to leave, should I be off work till he goes back to school? Do I need to log this with the doctor or anything? I have told Ds school who have been lovely, but what else do I need to do.
Thank you
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twirlypoo · 01/06/2016 09:22
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