I so wish I were sexually attracted to him. We are very compatible in lots of ways.
This is the second time we have started seeing each other and the first time we stopped was for this same reason - my feelings for him hit a plateau at liking him an awful lot but not developing sexual attraction, although there are things about him which I do find attractive. This time started off really well but the same thing is happening again and now he says he is in love. Everyone who knows we're seeing each other is assuming we're sleeping together but the truth is we haven't even had a proper snog. He puts absolutely no pressure on me whatsoever but I instinctively know that he would like a fully intimate relationship and why wouldn't he? I do too, but...and I can't get pissed and get his kit off because neither of us drink!! We haven't talked about it, in fact we don't talk about 'us' at all, I think he is someone who finds it hard to say things directly so he introduces subjects like that indirectly through talking about other people. I'm happy not to talk about 'us' because I'm not into dissecting relationships, Ive been there and done that.
We're both divorced for a long time and were each married for a long time too. I am aware that he has had a similar experience with another GF who he was seeing on an off for YEARS while she didn't know what she wanted.
I don't know what I want here really, we're going out to the cinema later and already I'm thinking about the end of the evening. that's not good is it? In fact it's probably a red flag from his side of things isn't it? I'm somebody's red flag
How long should I give it? what's the best thing to do to see if I can make it happen? Time?
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