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I'm feeling crap

(8 Posts)
Grapeeatingweirdo Fri 27-May-16 18:26:48

Many of you lovely lot commented on my thread in February about my DP who decided not to come home one night and had me all worried.

He ended our relationship and moved out in February and I've spent the last three months living my life and trying to get over the experience, which is probably the most painful thing I've ever had to live through.

Now he's got a new girlfriend and I feel like shit. I don't want him back now, he's done too much damage. But we are both in the music scene and she's been there as his gigs. I feel like she's taken my life and I don't know how to cope with this.

I'm dating someone lovely and don't have any desire to get back with my ex, so how do I get my head around the fact that he canned me and now wants this other woman? I'm a singer and this pub they were in was one of my favourites. I have a lot of history there gigging and now I feel like I can't go there any more.

It's shit. We have the same friends on social media Even though we have blocked each other. So I can't stop the pictures of them from showing in my feed. I might have to come off social media for a while.

AnyFucker Fri 27-May-16 18:28:38

She's taken your life ?

Well, good. She is dating a piece of shit and now you are not. Whoop for her.

monkeynutsandjam Fri 27-May-16 18:33:01

That sounds really crap, OP.
I can highly recommend a social media break. My social media break has been over two years now. I love not having to see those smug faces.
Hope you get some closure soon.
Can you get them barred from that pub? wink

LineyReborn Fri 27-May-16 18:41:03

I would second that, taking a social media break for a while.

Do something else with your time you've always wanted to do.

Imbroglio Sat 28-May-16 07:53:37

Three months is no time. It's really difficult and raw now but gradually the dynamics of bumping into him at gigs will change - you'll be with different people, you'll have had a good day doing something nice, or at the very least you'll be more prepared to see him. It won't always feel this crap.

monkeynutsandjam Sat 28-May-16 10:25:27

How are you, OP?

kaitlinktm Sat 28-May-16 11:11:58

Just had a look at your previous thread. Just think - someone else is now having to worry about his key in the door at night wondering what sort of mood he will be in, wondering if he will come home at all, worrying if he is driving over the limit. All those problems are not yours.

Sometimes when we don't have the problems for a while, we can forget them or minimise them and only concentrate on good times. Remember, there was a reason you used to post on here about him and it wasn't good. flowers

TheNaze73 Sat 28-May-16 11:53:30

Three months is no time at all. Time really is the best healer. If it's getting to you, come off of social media for a bit. People can people for all sorts of reasons, obviously wasn't meant to be

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