Hi everyone,
I would like some external advice.
I have been with my partner for 5yrs with a break of about 10months. I broke up with him before because he was really difficult to deal with, he would get angry all the time. Go out drinking loads, we had massive arguments he threw my handbag out of the house would storm out at all hours to go drinking to avoid me. He hit me once 5yrs ago. He wasn't that focused on his career and smoked weed casually which I think was making him behave this way. We had loads of good times too but one day I just had enough. He would do silent treatment after arguments and ignore me for maybe 5 days then want everything to go back to normal.
Since we got back together everything was fine he has changed except he kept blaming me for breaking up with him and dumping him like a dog. I said that me disappearing wasn't the best way to break up but he has to take responsibility for his behaviour. He sleeps in a lot when he is not working so I don't feel we spend that much time together. On Saturday he stayed out at his friends because the football was on then on Sunday was too tired for us to go out and spend time together. He does this maybe twice a month. If I try and disturb him when he is tierd he gets really nasty and tells Me to F off.
Yesterday he made some comments in the morning about me being like all other women. He left for work in a huff. I txt him saying I don't feel that we wants to be with me and he's upsetting me and he didn't reply. When he got home from work I tried to talk to him and he said he wanted to talk tomorrow. I said I need to talk now as I had been stressed all day. It's never the right time to talk. He then stormed out and came back at 4am. I'm not sure what the next best thing is to do, try and talk to him or weather I just should give up now ? I love him a lot he can be really kind and caring and he wants us to start a family but I feel the communication issues are still there and it's hard work.
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Stressedandconfusedinmay · 25/05/2016 10:34
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