secret pics on phone?

[lovelilies]

If you asked to see pics (just taken of you and DC) on your DP's phone but he just said "I'll send you them" and wouldn't let you see the phone, what would you think?
What would you say?

[GoofyIsACow]

That he had been taking selfies in the gym and didnt want me to take the piss...

[lovelilies]

I asked to see the phone, mine was upstairs. He said no. I looked but he was serious. Said there were pics for work on there (he's a Dr, I'm also an HCP and we have shared pics and stories about pts before) so that doesn't really wash...

[Eminado]

Clearly you dont trust him. Why dont you address that instead of splitting hairs about photos.

[kittybiscuits]

It's strange behaviour. Stranger than Eminado's post.

[lovelilies]

No. I don't trust him.
Just wondering what others would think/do in the same situation.

[MsMims]

I'd be suspicious about what he didn't want me to see. Worst case scenario, I'd be thinking photos of himself that he'd sent to someone else, or photos of another woman.

[kittybiscuits]

What else is arousing your mistrust?

[KatieKaboom]

Pics of patients shared with spouses? For the sake of my sanity, please lie and tell me you're joking.

Fwiw, and I know Mumsnet en masse seems to disagree, I'd get the hump if my husband wanted to look at my phone. My exact words would probably be "piss off. "

It has my work stuff (and yeah... confidentiality should be maintained, Jesus ), my gym photos, pics of my mouth as I try to figure out the state if my wisdom teeth... but also my chat app where I have very personal conversations, my appointments, my work our notes and my lists.

It is my diary and yes, it is my private space.

[Joysmum]

I'd be suspicious too but now it'd be because is think he was planning a surprise, rather than I didn't trust him. In the early days I'd have feared the worst.

[kittybiscuits]

Oh this is going to go well....

OP there is obviously a back story here?

[srslylikeomg]

People get funny about their phones (see pp) but if its usual to hand a phone over/flick through photos and he's suddenly being odd... I'd be suspicious. Personally I would wait til he was in the shower then steal his phone and have a good long rifle through it. But that's me.

[Abbinob]

I would rather die than have dp see my photos on my phone
Nothing dodgey going on here just picures of my face that are embarassing. Really unnatractive boob angle pictures (to check to see if my nipples were weird or not) and comparison pictures of my fat rolls when I sit on the loo

[Abbinob]

Wouldn't let him see my search history either-
"Beetroot poo or bowel cancer"

"Flap of skin that looks like a second clitorous after childbirth"

"Justin Bieber hot" (the worst by far)

[KatieKaboom]

I'd be reakly gutted if I found out my DH had snooped through my stuff.

Some of us value privacy more than others (horses for courses) but it doesn't mean you're hiding anything per se.

[AnyFucker]

your doctor husband has pictures of patients on his personal phone ?

I think you have bigger problems than him just being a bit secretive with it

[KatieKaboom]

Abbi, I

[lovelilies]

Only pics from work would be stuff like close ups leg ulcers or such, nothing identifiable.

There's a LONG back story, he's actually exdp but thinking about trying again.

I guess this just shows I don't trust him, and not ready to get back together.

He's even just said 'are you on Mumsnet asking what people think ?'

[AnyFucker]

why is he taking clinical photographs with his personal phone ?

There are clinical photoraphers employed to do just that and the photographs stay in their personal medical file under lock and key

your husband could be facing a huge (talking tens of thousands or more) or struck off if he lost his phone or had it stolen. It is a major breach of clinical governance.

[AnyFucker]

huge fine

[KatieKaboom]

Just saw from another thread that you're heavily preggers- the hormones are a headfuck without all this stuff. You must have a lot on your plate- really sorry, hope it all goes well. X

Is exp the dad? Who left whom?

[Kr1stina]

I would be suspicious . Does he have form ?

[AnthonyPandy]

Why does he need close ups of leg ulcers anyway?

[ladygoingGaga]

I would think it a tad strange if a doctor whipped out a phone and asked to take picture if I had an ulcer

Back to the OP question though.. It depends if he this response is normal behaviour for him.
If he has never had a problem before and now suddenly he seems reluctant I would be asking why?

Like others have said, trust issue here is most important, if you don't have trust you have fuck all.

[AnnieOnAMapleLeaf]

DH has asked to borrow my phone in the past and he gets told to feck off. My entire life is on my phone including my text conversations, emails and my journal not to mention the MN app which would reveal my username.

Unless you have a specific reason not to trust him, I would just accept the fact that his phone is private to him. HOWEVER, if he has form for fostering mistrust then that is an entirely different thread.

[lovelilies]

Yes, 36 weeks with DC2 with him.
Also have DD from prev relationship.
I left him in Nov after verbal and emotional abuse and his heavy drinking.
We have been spending time together recently due to imminent birth and DC and seeing if we can move forwards.
On the whole he does seem to have changed his ways. But this highlights that I'm not ready to.