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secret pics on phone?

(42 Posts)
lovelilies Tue 24-May-16 21:58:28

If you asked to see pics (just taken of you and DC) on your DP's phone but he just said "I'll send you them" and wouldn't let you see the phone, what would you think?
What would you say?

GoofyIsACow Tue 24-May-16 21:59:45

That he had been taking selfies in the gym and didnt want me to take the piss...

lovelilies Tue 24-May-16 22:07:35

I asked to see the phone, mine was upstairs. He said no. I looked hmm but he was serious. Said there were pics for work on there (he's a Dr, I'm also an HCP and we have shared pics and stories about pts before) so that doesn't really wash...

Eminado Tue 24-May-16 22:14:56

Clearly you dont trust him. Why dont you address that instead of splitting hairs about photos.

kittybiscuits Tue 24-May-16 22:16:38

It's strange behaviour. Stranger than Eminado's post.

lovelilies Tue 24-May-16 22:17:09

No. I don't trust him.
Just wondering what others would think/do in the same situation.

MsMims Tue 24-May-16 22:19:04

I'd be suspicious about what he didn't want me to see. Worst case scenario, I'd be thinking photos of himself that he'd sent to someone else, or photos of another woman.

kittybiscuits Tue 24-May-16 22:19:24

What else is arousing your mistrust?

KatieKaboom Tue 24-May-16 22:20:44

Pics of patients shared with spouses? For the sake of my sanity, please lie and tell me you're joking. shock

Fwiw, and I know Mumsnet en masse seems to disagree, I'd get the hump if my husband wanted to look at my phone. My exact words would probably be "piss off. "

It has my work stuff (and yeah... confidentiality should be maintained, Jesus hmm), my gym photos, pics of my mouth as I try to figure out the state if my wisdom teeth... but also my chat app where I have very personal conversations, my appointments, my work our notes and my lists.

It is my diary and yes, it is my private space.

Joysmum Tue 24-May-16 22:22:51

I'd be suspicious too but now it'd be because is think he was planning a surprise, rather than I didn't trust him. In the early days I'd have feared the worst.

kittybiscuits Tue 24-May-16 22:22:59

Oh this is going to go well....

OP there is obviously a back story here?

srslylikeomg Tue 24-May-16 22:24:40

People get funny about their phones (see pp) but if its usual to hand a phone over/flick through photos and he's suddenly being odd... I'd be suspicious. Personally I would wait til he was in the shower then steal his phone and have a good long rifle through it. But that's me.

Abbinob Tue 24-May-16 22:26:41

I would rather die than have dp see my photos on my phone
Nothing dodgey going on here just picures of my face that are embarassing. Really unnatractive boob angle pictures (to check to see if my nipples were weird or not) and comparison pictures of my fat rolls when I sit on the loo

Abbinob Tue 24-May-16 22:30:13

Wouldn't let him see my search history either-
"Beetroot poo or bowel cancer"

"Flap of skin that looks like a second clitorous after childbirth"

"Justin Bieber hot" (the worst by far)

KatieKaboom Tue 24-May-16 22:30:29

I'd be reakly gutted if I found out my DH had snooped through my stuff.

Some of us value privacy more than others (horses for courses) but it doesn't mean you're hiding anything per se.

AnyFucker Tue 24-May-16 22:30:54

your doctor husband has pictures of patients on his personal phone ?

I think you have bigger problems than him just being a bit secretive with it

KatieKaboom Tue 24-May-16 22:32:16

Abbi, I <3 your search history.

lovelilies Tue 24-May-16 22:32:30

Only pics from work would be stuff like close ups leg ulcers or such, nothing identifiable.

There's a LONG back story, he's actually exdp but thinking about trying again.

I guess this just shows I don't trust him, and not ready to get back together.

He's even just said 'are you on Mumsnet asking what people think ?'


AnyFucker Tue 24-May-16 22:35:26

why is he taking clinical photographs with his personal phone ?

There are clinical photoraphers employed to do just that and the photographs stay in their personal medical file under lock and key

your husband could be facing a huge (talking tens of thousands or more) or struck off if he lost his phone or had it stolen. It is a major breach of clinical governance.

AnyFucker Tue 24-May-16 22:35:42

huge fine

KatieKaboom Tue 24-May-16 22:38:15

Just saw from another thread that you're heavily preggers- the hormones are a headfuck without all this stuff. You must have a lot on your plate- really sorry, hope it all goes well. X

Is exp the dad? Who left whom?

Kr1stina Tue 24-May-16 22:39:08

I would be suspicious . Does he have form ?

AnthonyPandy Tue 24-May-16 22:40:33

Why does he need close ups of leg ulcers anyway?

ladygoingGaga Tue 24-May-16 22:42:01

I would think it a tad strange if a doctor whipped out a phone and asked to take picture if I had an ulcer hmm

Back to the OP question though.. It depends if he this response is normal behaviour for him.
If he has never had a problem before and now suddenly he seems reluctant I would be asking why?

Like others have said, trust issue here is most important, if you don't have trust you have fuck all.

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf Tue 24-May-16 22:52:08

DH has asked to borrow my phone in the past and he gets told to feck off. My entire life is on my phone including my text conversations, emails and my journal not to mention the MN app which would reveal my username.

Unless you have a specific reason not to trust him, I would just accept the fact that his phone is private to him. HOWEVER, if he has form for fostering mistrust then that is an entirely different thread.

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