Exdp and I have a ds together. We broke up before I realised I was pg and although we toyed with the idea of getting back together after ds was born, we never did. Over the past 10yrs our relationship had grown into a really good and, so I thought, solid friendship. He's no father of the year but loves our ds the best that he can.
At the beginning of this year I entered into a relationship with a new man which was as much as a surprise to me then it was to others. I was happily single for the past decade before I met new dp and exdp was one of the loudest in encouraging me to go for drinks with the new man.
Everything was fine with me and exdp until about a month ago where he completely disappeared on me for a while and came back with lots of vague statements like he's 'OK now' but refusing to say what is wrong and only talking in closed statements and mono sibylic replies. The last time I saw him face to face he spoke to me with a tone that implied he was talking to scum.
Tomorrow our ds has a hospital appointment which he has invited himself along to (he doesn't normally come along to these regular check up/medication reviews). I'm dreading it. It's obvious that we aren't friends anymore for reasons he refuses to divulge and I don't want my ds to be put in the middle of whatever the hell this akwardness. I especially do not want him to hear his df talking to me like crap.
I'm swinging between feeling furious that he is treating me like this and sad because I've lost one of my closest friends. It's literally 16yrs of history flushed away seemingly because I have a new dp.
Any advice on how to deal with this?
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Exdp being weird since I started a new relationship
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IllBeAtTheBarIfYouNeedMe · 24/05/2016 12:17
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