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Help me stop thinking about someone I can't have

(13 Posts)
pineappleeyes Tue 24-May-16 06:24:11

That's all really. I think about him day and night, i go over what was said and how exciting it all was. He hasn't treat me particularly nicely so why do I still want him. Please help. I desperately want to erase him.

ALaughAMinute Tue 24-May-16 06:38:32

What's the circumstances? Is he your ex?

RiceCrispieTreats Tue 24-May-16 06:48:35

Time, distance, and distractions:

- Change your patterns so that you have no more interactions with him,

- throw yourself into a hobby of your own so that your time and mental energy is used on something else,

- have a go-to topic to think about whenever you find yourself mulling about him (planning your next holiday, for example)

- And let time work its magic.

pineappleeyes Tue 24-May-16 07:47:28

He's a friend I had a fling with OP. I knew I'd end up getting hurt but I got carried away in the excitement of it all. Hes gone cold on me :-(

QuiteLikely5 Tue 24-May-16 07:49:09

You live and learn. Put this one down to experience. Time is the only healer I know of in circs like this

bbconfusedbb Tue 24-May-16 15:13:29

How old are you and him? Did he lead you on at all OP?

timelytess Tue 24-May-16 15:18:57

Just accept the pain as part of the game. As said above, cut contact and keep busy.

pineappleeyes Tue 24-May-16 16:14:44

I'm. Mid 30s he's slightly younger. Yes he did lead me on. He did the chasing .

lonerboner Tue 24-May-16 16:28:19

There is only one way


But you just really must go no contact, delete everything, throw away any memories etc ....

It's hard so so hard but you can do it.

Gabby99 Tue 24-May-16 16:31:50

He hasn't treated you well OP. It would be easy for me to forget him for this reason alone. You need to focus on how he has treated you and not what it may have been.

KoalaDownUnder Tue 24-May-16 16:32:44

I had the same problem.

I went no-contact (not that difficult, tbf, as he now lives on the other side of the world).

Unfriended and blocked him on FB.

Deleted his number.

Act as if he never existed.

It still hurts, but the alternative would be worse.

pineappleeyes Tue 24-May-16 17:10:16

How do I stop reliving what was. I miss the affection, banter & excitement. I know I can do it it's just so hard. Hes in my mind permanently. And yes op I keep thinking he's treat me so bad so why do I still want him? I think it's simply because I can't have him.

RosieSW Tue 24-May-16 17:21:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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