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Norky1975 Sun 22-May-16 16:32:51

When you feel a spark with someone, is it generally that the other person feels the same?
Thoughts please xx

indecisionindecision Sun 22-May-16 17:01:37

I don't think it's necessarily so. I developed a close relationship with a work colleague (we were both single at the time), fancied the pants off him and could have sworn that he fancied me a bit. I didn't make a move because we worked together and thought he was probably doing the same. Then he left and moved far, far away. We kept in touch and one day i asked him (by email as I'm a coward), if he'd felt the same way i did. He replied, very nicely, that no he'd never noticed any kind of spark and just thought we were good mates.

DraenorQueen Sun 22-May-16 17:01:59

I think it is because that spark comes from the mutual smiles, eye contact, etc. But I don't think that spark always means something is destined to happen. I have that spark with chap at work, we're both single but there's a tacit understanding that it wont go anywhere for many reasons.
OTOH, when I met my ex, there was an instant understanding between us that we would be together - no games, no doubting feelings. If I were looking for a new relationship, I'd hope to find someone who I clicked with in that way. but who could keep his dick in his pants. Cunt

Whats going on, OP?

Norky1975 Sun 22-May-16 17:32:39

Nothing - feeling it with someone. V strange.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Sun 22-May-16 17:36:39

I'd say no.

I had a lovely friendship with someone who felt that spark with me. I did not feel the same spark with him, we just got on well.

I had a another friendship with someone who I felt a spark with, people claimed they could see the spark between us... and then I met him out and about with his boyfriend blush

Norky1975 Sun 22-May-16 17:44:09

Isn't it weird though?

LovePGtipsMonkey Sun 22-May-16 19:22:46

are you a woman, OP? probably yes going by the username ha. I want to know that too - I feel it atm and it's so hard to imagine it's one-sided.

But I did feel that once towards gay man - mind you, he may have been secretly bi- but was gay openly. But more likely he wasn't bi- really, he just liked me, we got on.

OTOH I have a male friend, several yrs now, a close friendship even though we don't meet often, I feel zero attraction towards him (in fact, yuk!) but he did really fancy me - but managed to settle for friendship. I had to fend off innuendos but because he's nice and we get on, I had patiencee with that and he's got the message. I think it's easy to mistake friendliness/liking as more when you want it to be more.

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