Struggling today.
I'm nearly 30 and, after ending a 3 year relationship a year ago (we rented together), I have decided to buy a house alone. This has been quite scary, and been a huge reminder that I am 'single' in capital letters. I suppose because I never imagined it would be like this. But i'm lucky to be able to buy a focusing on that.
I'm struggling because, until the house goes through, I have another 5 weeks of living with my, possibly abusive parents. I've been here for 2 weeks already, and feel like a broken person. I'm staying here for financial reasons.
Today, I went to the shop and when I got back my parents had left the house and not left me a key. I'm not allowed my own key as I'm 'not trusted' in the house without them, as a generla rule. Unless it's vital I'm not allowed here on my own, they have to be here with me. This is becuase im messy, not because they think i will steal anything. I'm not actually messy at all, but that's a whole other story.
I then called my mum and, no apology, but starts talking to my dad while im on the phone, and having a conversation about something else..!! At first I thought it was a mistake,so I hung up and called back. She answers, then does the same again, so i can only hear a muffling sound like she's put the phone in her bag. There was no shouting from me, nothing like that. I was left outside the house feeling completely shit.
Last night I had to bring work home with me, and I wasnt allowed to use the dining room table in case I marked it. So I had to do work on the floor in the bedroom. BUT, when they want to talk about their daughter's 'great career', they're happy to do that...just seem to have no understanding while im actually trrying to do my job!!
Food. Another issue. I buy my own food and im told it's taking up space in their fridge so I need to stop. Then I'm moaned at for not contributing. Also had a 45 minute lecture about not buying free range eggs (i am trying to save every penny at the moment).
What's making me feel worse is that these two weeks have made me remember that they used to do this to me growing up...when I was 17/18. I feel completely abused, but then maybe i'm being dramatic and it's just usual family rows.
I can't stay with friends and have no other relatives in the area. I've already thought about ALL other options before doing this.
So fed up. I'm just complaining really but it's felt better to type this out.
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Stuck with my parents and feeling abused, so fed up
everybitofsun · 21/05/2016 14:08
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