Dp and I just had a lovely family holiday in Crete for my Dads 75th BUT ...
A situation happened that is now tearing dp & myself apart so I would very much like to ask for opinions as I don't know how to feel/ what o do...
.... Just leaving our hotel room there was a knock, it was the chamber maid, I invited her in to begin her job as we were about to go out, she knelt down and beckoned dd (age 2.5) to her and I encourage my daughter to say hello and give her a hug, the maid hugged her for a paused moment then sat her on her knee making a fuss of her before squeezing her arms (in a your very cute way) and then lifting her dress slightly to squeeze her thighs and telling her 'I love you' (I don't think she spoke much English anyway). Dp did not like this and then removed dd from maids knees. I thought ok it's a bit much touchy feely for a child you don't know well but I figured me were in Crete and the culture may be like this. I forgot about it, dp is driving himself (and me) mad over it. Ok so I want to be supportive of him but he does seem to show signs of anxiety and he always has something which is plaguing him like this is but this seems worse. I discouraged him whilst away to say something (on as I felt it unnecessary ... We were both by dd's side, seeing everything and no harm was done. However seeing how tense he is now, I reluctantly agreed to message the hotel about the situation to see what they say ...hoping this would help dp to deal with things but now he is asking me often if they have messaged back (it's been less than 2 days) and called me earlier from work saying he wanted to travel back there ... Which petrified me .... We don't have the £ to first of all and that £ would be better spent on food and bills that we are struggling with! I advised him to talk to his support group about it but that won't be until next week. I feel stressed and I don't often ... Should I be more concerned by the action of this maid? As dd's mum I think if I should then I would be after Ali I would give my life for her as any mum would! I certainly won't be encouraging dd to hug anyone we don't know in future but I can't undo that now! Please advise....
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Angelina7 · 20/05/2016 14:54
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