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Petty I know? but, my brothers birthday is coming up....yay! ((eyeroll))

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Beeswax2017 Thu 19-May-16 04:25:15

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Aussiebean Thu 19-May-16 04:47:26

Do you think he is the golden child? And maybe you the scapegoat?

Beeswax2017 Thu 19-May-16 04:54:23

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Imbroglio Thu 19-May-16 07:31:04

It sounds like your mum is upset that her son is having a great time and puts way family low down the list while she's sick with cancer. She can't compete with his wife and friends.

Could you have a chat with your brother about spending more time with her and stepping up a bit while she's sick?

I get how you feel, though. My brother was always the apple of his mother's eye but I always knew that when it came down to it I'd have to look after my mum.

mumoseven Thu 19-May-16 09:12:56

Oh god I've been triggered! This is so the story with my family, bro, me, sis. After my DM died, I would frequently travel the 200 plus miles to check on DF who was really struggling. My sis (who lives nearby to dad)actually took on the main caring and visited every day rain or shine. Our bro continued to live his life, but occasionally popped into see dad(he lives as nearby as my sis)and did a bit of hoovering or something and it would be all 'wow Dbro came round and hoovered! Hallelujah! All praise golden balls! ' whilst Dsis was doing this shit everyday, and I was doing whatever was physically possible given the distance.
Sorry. As you were.

springydaffs Thu 19-May-16 09:26:11

Not petty AT all. Nowhere near petty.

It's a bit difficult that she's going through cancer treatment now and is going to need all your support. Do what needs doing but don't be pushing the boat out with flags and bunting: just do the basics (just been through it myself so not being flippant).

Right then. Time to stop being Cinderella. They /she ignored your 30th. They/she can fuck right off.

1moreglassplease Thu 19-May-16 14:02:30

I feel your pain. Younger DB has always been "special snowflake" and had every allowance made. He now lives in Thailand and can hardly be bothered to ring my parents and my dad is seriously ill and housebound. I've emailed and asked him to visit but he won't even consider it. Every time I go to my parents I hear all about DB & SIL's wonderful holidays, jobs etc. Makes me want to vomit!

diddl Thu 19-May-16 17:57:52

Who is organising the family get together?

How often do you see your mum & how often does he?

I'm thinking that there has to be a "reason" for him to visit otherwise he's just not that bothered about seeing family?

Why is everyone so desperate to see him that they'll make such an effort for hom but not others?

coco1810 Thu 19-May-16 18:14:09

This could by my DP's family. Currently saving my ass off to send him and his best mate up to St Andrews for their 50th (two days difference between them). Me and DC spent ages planning his 40th, his DM couldn't even have the day off. She had the week off for his brothers.

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