My bf for more than 15 years goes through phases where she will basically tell anyone we are out with stories of what a knob I am or how stupid I am or how drunk I was. Basically anything I have ever done that she doesn't like will get told to any friends of mine. The rest of the time she is a lovely friend who I love dearly. She does have a lot of stuff going on in her own life so I understand things are hard for her.
I realised I stopped going out at all about 2 years ago and it's not that I don;t want to go out it's that I don;t want to go out with that friend, I am on guard the whole time and waiting for the stories to start. Plus I daren't have any fun as I know it will be used as the next story of how ridiculous I am.
She quite clearly really doesn't like me but then will try and make out that we are inseparable to any strangers.
Makes me feel like she is embarrassed by me and wants everyone to join in laughing at how useless I am and what a treasure she is to put up with me. I do realise this is not intentional and she would be upset if she knew I felt this way.
I don;t see her much or hear from her much unless she things there is something wrong with me (I sometimes struggle a bit with busy life asd dd etc) and then she phones me with this sympathy voice that is so fake and plasticy like she is wanting me to be struggling so she can fix me.
She has a lot more money than me and is always incredibly generous, paying for lots of things and buying the dd's lovely presents etc.
Anyway after a night out a few weeks ago I have been through every emotion going, I woke up the next morning really angry, now I am back to sad and anxious and not able to work out what I have done. The whole night she was making digs at me, finishing with whispering 'your drunk but we love you' in my ear, I wasn't particularly and other friends have confirmed that I was fine, also it was my birthday.
To alleviate my anxiety I have tried to word this thread so that if bf was to read it I haven't said anything I wouldn't say to her if I had more confidence or was able to deal with confrontation.
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Friends that actually make you feel bad about yourself
ditavonteesed · 18/05/2016 08:03
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