I have finally decided to leave my partner of 12 years. We have a DS who is 6.
Partner could be a lot worse I suppose but he is lazy, unsupportive of anything I do, and swears and calls me names in front of DS. This is making me a horrible person and I've become constantly angry/sad and end up snapping at DS who is an angel most of the time and I would never normally raise my voice at him.
I can't leave yet due to childcare practicalities but hope to do so in the next couple of months. I don't want to tell partner that I'm leaving him until I can leave straight away.
The longer it goes on the more pressure I feel knowing that I am breaking up my family. I know partner loves me, he's just an arse and to be fair he had an awful childhood.
I am leaving for my son's sake, I don't want him to grow up thinking a controlling verbally abusive relationship is OK. But what if the alternative is worse for him? Not seeing Daddy as much (they adore each other), being carted around between both parents (we are in the NHS - random shift patterns!), and coming from a broken home.
I just wish I could look into the future and see if I am making the right decision.
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