Pregnant and constantly rowing with partner

[Jane2016]

Hi,

I'm 21 weeks pregnant and my partner and I seem to be constantly rowing (about once a week). We've always had bad rows, so I can't blame it on the pregnancy. The arguments get really heated and we end up shouting and screaming at each other. I know this must not be good for the baby and have said this to my partner. I've told him I feel lonely in the relationship and he doesn't say anything which makes me think he doesn't care. He works hard and has a demanding job but it's not fair that I should come second to his work. He doesn't make plans with me and when I ask him to he gets angry and says I have more time so why don't I organise something. That is not the point I want him to make me feel special by planning something nice for us to do but he doesn't seem to get it snd when I tell him how I feel he just gets defensive and blames work commitments for not being able to do anything. He gets angry and turns things back round on me making me feel like I'm being unreasonable. Then I loose it with him out of sheer frustration. When he's at home he often avoids eye contact, is on his I-pad, phone or computer and barely makes conversation. This is another reason I feel lonely. I don't know what to do. It seems like things will never change. I appreciate any advice you might have. Thanks!

[BeccaMumsnet]

Hi Jane2016 - we're going to move this over to our Relationships topic for you.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Why are you with him?
Serious question.
Do you love him?
If so, what do you love about him?

Do you work FT at the moment?

I honestly don't see the point to him.
You do nothing together other than argue, shout and scream.
He doesn't engage with you outside of work.
So why?? What is the point?