Ok so I have name changed for this as loathed at self for writing it but need to vent.
This weekend my DH went on a golfing day for one of his mates' birthday. Golfing day was a bit of a drive so another guy offered a lift. The other guy happened to be my ex partner from 9 years ago.
DH and Ex both know eachother (all went to uni together but I didn't know DH then) and we all remain 'on good terms' but never see each other. DH is the least jealous person ever and wouldn't be bothered in the slightest that I have history with this guy (or if he is would never show it). Anyway I suppose it was 'on my mind' that they were going and also that we will be seeing Ex and his current partner at another mutual wedding next month.
So yesterday I got a call from DH asking If i could pick him up from drop off point on way home, no problem. Pulled up with the 2 DCs and Ex was also there in his Porsche.
Now I love my DH and we have a happy family but since seeing Ex (for approx 10 mins) and chatting happily I feel really weird about him. Can't stop thinking about him and wondering what it would have been if i was still with him. We broke up at the time due to a job and me having to relocate. We were young and long distance was so hard so we decided to break up rather then see each other less and less and eventually fizzle. We broke up very early in our relationship and If I am honest I think we both have since wondered what if because we were really rather infatuated while it lasted. I haven't even thought about him (except the odd facebook stalk) until I saw him yesterday and I have had 7 very happy years with DH and our 2 DCs.
Now i am sat here worrying why I am even thinking about this other man!! Granted he is looking great, really successful and still very charismatic but the truth is I wish I hadn't seen him as he's sort of 'in my head' now.
Can anyone reassure me that this is nothing and I can just ignore these weird feelings? I am mildly worried about the wedding and massively hoping we aren't on the same table (surely they wouldn't..!)
Anyone else had any similar experience? I have got other exes and have run into them from time to time with no real aftermath! I think this bothers me as the relationship never actually ran it's course or something. I don't know why it's playing on my mind but I feel so guilty for even thinking about someone else!!
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OhDearMe2 · 16/05/2016 14:22
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