Okay I'll try to make this short, 3 and 1/2 years ago, I found out ex was too friendly with work colleague, spoke to them about it, they denied it, broke up with him anyway, gave him a second chance but she was always contacting him so I ended it again, had baby number 2 for him. Silly I know. He was being really helpful talking about how nice it would be to be a family so I started sleeping with him again, decided to check his iPad one day and found out he was sleeping with her too, I called her and told her, she seemed quite nice and then 5 hours later she cursed me out, through text messages. A few days ago I hacked into his email and there were exchanged for the whole 3 and a 1/2 years, it was gutting and even after telling her we were sleeping together she didn't seem to care. So today I broke down fully and utterly. The 1st time in 3 years. It just happened, the kids were in the bath and I started crying uncontrollably, I had texted him so much nonsense earlier about him the girl, about how he'd ruined me, I sounded like a right nut case, then I told him to come for the kids in a text message and called him, and he said he was at work but he would leave, I was sitting on the bath floor looked up the kids were still fine playing, then I started to cry again and I turned and reached over to the toilet roll for toilet paper to wipe my eyes, I turned around and notice I couldn't see my little girl, my toddler boy had pulled her out her seat and had her in the water without support, I froze for a couple seconds but then reacted, and pulled her out, she didn't cough or puke up any water, she pushed herself out of my arm and started to play and go about as normal, I was so shocked I started to cry hysterically, next thing there's a knock at the door and I open it, he comes in, I go to my bedroom crying he dresses the kids, and then says he has to collect some paper from work, what he does in fact is call all my family telling them I've lost the plot. So I'm home by myself worrying about the baby so decide to call 111, worse mistake ever, I try to explain the baby is not on me but just checking up if I should carry her to a and e. Agent gets excitable and says I need to get the baby back and call 999, not even listening to the fact she was walking playing laughing after the incident. Knock on the door and it's my mum, then I realise what the bastard had done, I told my mum about the incident in the bath and I said not to tell him, he returned the children 10 mins later. I called 111 again, spoke to a nice lady this time, she said she'd send paramedics, they called, by now my little girl was running in the garden eating biscuits and playing, he said she should be fine. The only problem is I've called 111 loads over the past 3 years, every bump or cut, but now I think my ex is getting crafty and will use this breakdown as a way to get the kids, he's had bigger break downs where he's tried to commit suicide or so he says, so I don't want him to know about the bath incident. If social services contact me will they want to talk to him too? I feel terrible, I texted those stupid messages that made me seem like a nut case, please help, I don't know what to do.
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Break down, ex calls mum, now playing the your crazy card, possibly social services
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BeyondSad · 13/05/2016 00:43
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