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angelslie Thu 12-May-16 11:57:54

i been dating my boyfriend for about 4 and a half years, things didn't go too well between us lately but we are still living together and i tried to talk to my bf and explained i feel there is no spark anymore and i feel stress staying with him.
I met a guy online about 1 and a half year ago and we met once. He fell in love with me and I insisted we should remain friends as I am seeing someone now. He said he 'll wait and he did until last week I finally decide i should let go my current bf and tell him I will be ready soon to start something with him. I did not want to rush things so I didnt tell him right away I will leave my bf, after a week he told me he met someone else and shes the one and there is a special connection between him and the new girl. He said to me I don't love you anymore I love someone else.

I felt very very sad even though we never start anything and he always says I am the special one. What's wrong with me? I just couldn't focus on anything else except feeling heart broken...he said if he met me not online first but in real life he wouldnt even dare to talk to me because I am out of his league...
it breaks my confidence and i miss him...

TheNaze73 Thu 12-May-16 12:00:26

I can't believed you kept him waiting 18 months. If in his eyes, you were really bothered, you'd have done something sooner. Time is the healer here & you'll have to put this down to experience.

FetchezLaVache Thu 12-May-16 12:04:00

Seriously, you expected some guy you met online and in the flesh ONCE to hang around for eighteen months while you get round to dumping your long-term boyfriend? Which, if I'm reading this correctly, you still haven't actually done? You wanted to make sure you had the safety net of Online Guy before ending the long-term relationship?

HarmlessChap Thu 12-May-16 12:12:39

Sounds like you had an emotional affair with a guy online while living with your boyfriend and now you don't fancy him any more your confidence has been knocked by the fact that your EA has found someone else.

Firstly WTF!!!!!

Secondly, you had 2 guys wanting you at the same time, you should have no confidence issues.

Pisssssedofff Thu 12-May-16 12:15:19

Lol at two guys.
Scrap them both and start again, I kind of did what you did and completely understand it but the moment you let both go you're in a better place to meet the right one.

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