I've got so much going around my head I'm sorry if this is all jumbled and full of waffle. Also trying hard not to out myself.
H and I have been together 12 years and have a large family.
Due to various reasons I've been a sahp for the past few years.
During this time h has become lazier and lazier with regards house work and childcare. Typical day would be him doing school drop off on way to work and that would be it.
He moans and complains about things that aren't done but never helps to get it done.
Recently Ive just given up doing somethings, I'm so fed up with running around and picking up everyone's shit. I've given up trying to make conversation with him because I'm sick of the lack of interest on his part, the fact he can't put his bloody phone down to have a conversation with me, the fact that if I ask him a question he can just ignore me until he feels like answering. He never asks about my day, where I've been or what we've done.
He finally decided to ask what was wrong (all through text because he was at work) I replied by telling him that I was fed up of being taken for granted.
He replied by telling me he's sick of being used as a meal ticket and expected to work as a slave.
Although massively pissed off with this I calmly asked if he could explain what he meant a bit more.
He went off on one, telling me I was criticising him and throwing things back in his face, I was petty and pathetic.
Again I asked him to explain why he thought that, which resulted in him saying I was playing mind games, I'm bitter twisted and resentful. Then he blocked me and didn't speak to me for a couple of days.
Last night I had to go and pick up our eldest. He sent me a message telling me I needed to get something while I was out.
I informed him I was aware of that.
Again he went off on, I'm not aware of his needs, (I may have been a little sarcastic at that point), a twisted bitch who again is playing mind games, he's had enough, either I sort myself out or move out.
Finished by telling me he was going away this weekend (not going to happen) because he needs to get away from me, he hates me for this and I'm making him ill.
After both times I've been left thinking WTAF just happened.
Was it me?? I wasn't aggressive, I wasn't rude, no name calling, I just asked some questions.
Has my behaviour (I just can't be arsedness) been out of order???
I just don't understand what I did to provoke such a hostile and nasty few messages.
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Ineedmorecoffee · 11/05/2016 09:55
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