This time last year I found out dh had had an affair with someone he worked with.
After Christmas I agreed I would start seeing him again as the initial rage had died down and we've been building to a reconciliation and him moving back in the summer. But I'm just really struggling at the moment.
On the one hand I want to shake myself and say it's been a year but I feel worse at the moment maybe as its heading towards that time of year I found out. I feel sad and bitter that I've been put in this position of whether we split the family as he's so desperate reunite or get back together on the back of his stupid actions. I feel angry about stupid things that I haven't lost much weight and the person he cheated with was very slim which makes me feel awful about myself. I started a college course last year and was meant to be in today and got halfway there and turned round as I can't face being with anyone which is just so not like how I used to be. I did everything the advice tells you to, go out with friends, started a new hobby, changed career direction,
I feel trapped and I don't know what to do. I know that if I hadn't got 3 young children I would have left him and that'd be it but the thought of future step kids/ sharing Christmases/ birthdays makes me sad too. Nobody I know in real life has been through this so it makes it hard for them to understand it. I just feel like I'm sinking and don't know what to do.
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struggling one year on from dh's affair
whensitmyturn · 11/05/2016 09:38
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