He picks my clothes . .

[Eyelashinmyeye]

. .or at least tries to. Would you find this controlling? I quite liked it at first, as it felt like he was really paying attention to what suits me etc, but it has started to annoy me, and has almost caused arguments.

I told him I was looking online for new clothes and he made sure he saw them before I ordered. When I said that I was sending something back because I had seen a nicer one in the shops, he said 'can I see it first'?

Just trying to get an idea if this is controlling, or if you would find it a bit annoying/odd?

[kippersyllabub]

Controlling

[AnyFucker]

Controlling

In what other ways does he try to exert control ? Who you see, where you go, what time you stay out until, what your opinions are etc

[lionheart70]

Really annoying and controlling.

[Toffeelatteplease]

Incredibly. Run for the hills

[ABCAlwaysBeCunting]

Odd, annoying and possibly controlling.

[AnyFucker]

Oh, and you were very foolish to consider it at all acceptable in the first place

He is not your keeper and you are not 5yo

[pocketsaviour]

Does he work in the fashion industry? If no, he's controlling you, and I'm going to bet it's not the only controlling thing he does, just the first one you've put a name to.

[DoreenLethal]

Controlling.

Boyfriend or married?

[NoCapes]

Run away
Fast

[ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe]

Unless he's a world known stylist and you are happy for him to choose your clothes, then no, it's not ok.

[Eyelashinmyeye]

I can't really think of other things he does to control me.

The only other thing that makes me feel uncomfortable, so could be in the same category, is that I sometimes feel if I want to have a quiet 5 mins after a busy day at work, then I'm accused of being moody and it will cause upset/silent treatment, followed by a row.

[PassiveAgressiveQueen]

what would happen if you ignored him and bought something he didn't like?
then wore it out with him?

[Eyelashinmyeye]

not married, and no kids.

[Eyelashinmyeye]

passive . .I have a few things that he doesn't like, and he always suggests I put something else on!

[TheSuspiciousMsWhicher]

So you're not allowed to have a quiet 5 minutes without him making it all about him? Taken with the clothing thing, I would run fast and run far.

[AnyFucker]

Get the togs he doesn't like, wear them and when he suggests something else look him right in the eye and refuse

See what he says/does

[FetchezLaVache]

How long have you been together? Just wondering if this is the subtle opening move in a long-term campaign of control...

[HeadDreamer]

Very controlling.

is that I sometimes feel if I want to have a quiet 5 mins after a busy day at work, then I'm accused of being moody and it will cause upset/silent treatment, followed by a row.

It's a completely normal thing to want quiet time. It shouldn't cause any upset.

[Believeitornot]

I would talk to him and tell him how you feel.

He won't listen.

But tell him anyway when you split up with him.

[Ludwaysl]

Controlling. Go out while you can.

[Ludwaysl]

Get out.

[Eyelashinmyeye]

Lived together for 6 months, been together for a year.

I feel like I might have brought this on myself though . .as I complained a while ago that I had no decent clothes and that I'm struggling to find stuff that I like. I expected his opinion, but it has spiralled into him being my personal dresser!

I just want to pick my own stuff!

[ChuckitintheBucket]

Not married, no kids. I'd run and run bloody fast. He will only get worse.

[OurBlanche]

Sadly I'd agree. Whilst you can still recognise this as odd behaviour you need to take steps to remove him from your life.