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Mutual friends WWYD

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needresolution Sat 07-May-16 16:47:06

Exh and I had some mutual friends we had known since school helped each other out a lot, when exh and I split they all sided with exh as was his drinking buddies apart from one couple who I was close to. This couple met my new partner and we've been out a couple of times and we all seemed to get along ok, the wife I am close to lots of coffees together discussing issues ex and my break up (which I'm guessing is being Fed back to exh as they are still in touch with exh.
They recently moved out of the town we live in, I'm happy for them etc but they are always asking my exh round now to theirs. Just tonight I was invited round only to get a message saying sorry exh has now been invited! Now I know they can do what they want but I guess I just feel betrayed? Am I best just to be polite and not stay in contact?

springydaffs Sat 07-May-16 16:59:49

Bloody hell! Yes that is betrayal.

Poor you. Sorry they've turned out to slap you in the face be like this.

tbh I lose interest in people who shit on me/don't tip up in a crisis. They're out on the spot. These two have blatantly betrayed you so ta ta

So sorry need flowers

RaeSkywalker Sat 07-May-16 17:03:30

You don't deserve friends who report back to your ex. I'd distance yourself from them.

brassbrass Sat 07-May-16 17:06:56

do they mean exh has been invited instead of you or as well as you?

Not that is makes much difference as it shows little regard for your feelings.

Time to cut this lot loose and make some new friends. That sounds easy to say but not in a flippant way. If they don't bring any joy to your life and instead cause you distress then they are not your friends and you're better off not exposing yourself to them.

Cabrinha Sat 07-May-16 17:07:01

I don't understand whether they cancelled your invitation or were just warning you?

If the former - they're total arseholes, ditch.

If the latter - fair enough. They were friends with both of you, and things have moved on enough for you to have introduced them to your new boyfriend.

I actually think you put them in an awkward situation bitching about your ex before. That's not fair to mutual friends. It's possible he's getting more invitations because he isn't complaining about you?

rollonthesummer Sat 07-May-16 17:15:16

the wife I am close to lots of coffees together discussing issues ex and my break up (which I'm guessing is being Fed back to exh as they are still in touch with exh

It's putting them in a rather difficult situation if they are still friends with ex to discuss him and your break up. I'm not sure why you would discuss that with her either if you know she's telling him!

More detail is needed about tonight. When did they invite you? When did they invite him? Who else is invited?

needresolution Sat 07-May-16 17:21:27

I haven't been bitching about my ex, quite the contrary really, my ex,s behaviour before was awful and they supported me, and we regularly went out at the weekend with my new partner. Now they have moved, ex has been invited over more as I guess as its out of the way?! The stupid thing is they were suggesting i move out that way too (not that I was going to) but today has brought it to light.
I was invited over tonight and because I took a while replying, a couple of hours later I was rejected saying ex was invited over instead, sorry...

needresolution Sat 07-May-16 17:23:55

I've supported her as well with her family issues etc the coffee mornings hasn't all been all about me!

brassbrass Sat 07-May-16 17:26:29

well then defo drop them I would say. Even if it wasn't your exh they'd invited and someone else it's still monumentally rude to retract an invitation like that.

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