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I don't think my husband loves me anymore

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lola2319 Sat 07-May-16 01:15:29


Hello, I am on here to talk about this problem I've been having recently.
I don't think my husband loves me and I think he wants to leave me.

A little backstory about us. We met when i was 17 and he was 26. I fell pregnant with our little princess shortly after my 18th birthday and we got married right before she was born. Now i know that our age gap can be quite controversial and my mother certainly didnt agree with it, as this pretty much exactly mirrored her pregnancy with me as she was 18 and my dad was about the same age as my hubby. Everything was great!! Throughout my whole pregnancy we were closer than ever and he was so loving, caring and attentive towards me, and even after she was born everything was great!

Now its a year on and i feel like he doesnt even want to acknowledge me anymore. We sleep separate, but this is because he works super late and I dont work so i take care of our daughter in the morning. At first this was a great idea cause we was more rested and he could sleep in a little bit more in the morning and i could make him breakfast and overall i felt like i was being a pretty good wife! I'd even give him facial massages at night to help him relax before he slept.

But over these past few weeks I just feel so unappreciated and like nothing i do is good enough for him and i want to cry but when i cry it annoys him (granted i do cry a lot but I'm a very emotional person to begin with) so i just hold everything back. Even when i go to visit him at work he is all over out daughter and anything i tell him about my day just goes completely over his head and he brushes it off. I just dont know what to do!

When I make him breakfast he always finds something wrong with it, and i'm just like sorry I'm not a gourmet chef, im only 19!! I can barely feed myself and baby without having you criticize every single mistake that i make! I know that i'm under no obligation to make his meals but i feel that if i dont then thats just another reason for him to leave me. And for the life of me i cant figure out what has made him act this was. Literally have to beg him for a hug and when he does its like 2 seconds and then pushes me off :'( i know that having a baby will change a relationship but i never thought to this extent! And another thing; whatever i do for our daughter isn't good enough either. Even if i feed her enough hes always just like 'feed her more' or if shes not wearing a housecoat/robe/dressing gown he gets mad because he thinks that shes not warm enough and is going to get sick!

I just dont know what to do! I know that in this post i have been quite rambly and complainy but he just shows no affection anymore and i just have this gut feeling that hes gonna come home from work one of these days and just say that hes had enough and wants to leave. And I know that i am not prepared to be a single mother!! Has anyone else experienced this and if so did you find a way to get passed it or did you call it quits? I still love him very much and couldn't imagine life without him but i dont think its the same case for him nowadays sad

MrsUniverse Sat 07-May-16 01:35:24

You could try counselling. Or you could kick this waste of skin to the curb. Because he sounds like a prick.

GraysAnalogy Sat 07-May-16 01:40:17

OP there are so many things wrong with this, and now you're in a predicament that can be solved. I know you love him, that can't be helped, but what exactly is he contributing to your relationship? and i say relationship, but its' not is it, it's you making the effort whilst he makes none.

Sapph1r3 Sat 07-May-16 02:39:04

I honestly think that you're right and he doesn't want to be with you and the baby. He will leave. The flip side is that you and your child will be so much better off without him.

TheNaze73 Sat 07-May-16 09:09:17

He wants out but, is too spineless to tell you

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