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can he really be serious?!

(13 Posts)
sheriwibli Sat 07-May-16 00:04:02

Ok can people please tell me I'm not the only one who finds this totally beyond stupid! My ex has just become manager of a store just TOLD me that if he has the kids any day, and he gets phones saying someone's not turned up. Even if I'm at work I HAVE to come back immediately and get them so he can go to work.. May I add he doesn't even get paid overtime and has rearranged his 'days' with the kids on numerous occasions. X

hownottofuckup Sat 07-May-16 00:06:42

He's talking bollocks. Is he my ex too? Sounds similar... wink

Akire Sat 07-May-16 00:06:50

Tell him that's fine, you will give up your job to be on his beck and call. Name your price!

VimFuego101 Sat 07-May-16 00:12:35

No, he needs to arrange emergency childcare.

Longdistance Sat 07-May-16 00:19:35

Bollocks!

His problem...

DioneTheDiabolist Sat 07-May-16 00:22:59

If he needs childcare on his days, it's up to him to arrange it. You are not his on call babysitter OP.

sheriwibli Sat 07-May-16 00:24:28

Thank you so much! I hope you don't mind if I show him this?! Because I am honestly so shocked by his attitude of no matter where I am I should come! Who does he think k am! X

TheSilveryPussycat Sat 07-May-16 00:51:24

PM'd you.

DoreenLethal Sat 07-May-16 15:12:20

Have you tried telling him that you are not married any more and he does not run your diary - so when he has the kids, they are his responsibility until he return then at the pre-planned time.

AKA fuck off you twat.

QuiteLikely5 Sat 07-May-16 15:15:52

He should not have taken the job if he did not have adequate childcare cover.

Some fathers threat their children as an option instead of a priority- he sounds like this

magoria Sat 07-May-16 15:16:39

Basically your job want you there to do your job.

They won't give a shit that he cannot organise his job/time with the DC and will not be interested.

You just have to grit your teeth and say 'sorry can't am at work, bye' then leave him to it.

Bloody idiot.

AyeAmarok Sat 07-May-16 15:27:21

He needs to organise childcare around his work commitments. His children, his problem to solve. Just like you'd have to do when they're with you.

You'd ask ex of he was free and could help, he'd say no, then you'd have to try family or friends or a professional. If you couldn't get someone you'd have to take emergency parental leave (unpaid).

Same applies to him. It's not different just because he has a penis rather than vagina.

sheriwibli Sat 07-May-16 21:08:58

Thank you ladies I'm so annoyed at he logic and made it perfectly clear that is not happening at all.

I'm sure he lives in a dream land! X

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