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First date. Nervous. Would love some moral support ☺

(21 Posts)
gemsangels123 Fri 06-May-16 20:28:35

I have posted in the last few weeks. I joined pof although I have heard horror stories I couldn't afford to pay for a site. I had lots and lots of positive feedback here which was lovely and definitely encouragin.
I have taken ALL avicenna on board and arranged to meet someone tomorrow. I was a little concerned of my size and only putting face shots on my profile. Anyway I'm kind of ok. I think!
Just wondering how I should be or what to do on a first date? I am meeting at a pub in the afternoon. I'm soooo nervous. I don't even know why I'm posting I am just so nervous. I almost cancelled 😕

AutumnRose1988 Fri 06-May-16 20:32:50

Just be yourself and btw I know loads of happily married couples who met on POF :-)

Just remember that he will be as nervous as you and believe in yourself :-)

Seeyounearertime Fri 06-May-16 20:33:00

I bet your date is nervous too. grin

You'll be fine, if you're nervous just tell your date and laugh about it, it'll diffuse the nerves.

FuzzyOwl Fri 06-May-16 20:34:02

Good luck. I hope it all goes well.

Kirsty67 Fri 06-May-16 20:36:00

Noooo.Do not cancel...
He may be feeling the same way...
Give yourself plenty of time to get ready...enjoy the excitement and nerves you're feeling...all normal.
Go with the flow.....thats all you need to do and take the evening as it comes...
Oh...and smile and be yourself....this date wouldnt be happening without a little "something"☺

gemsangels123 Fri 06-May-16 20:40:49

Ohhhh thankyou all so much ☺ this site has been so helpful to me. I don't feel so 'alone' chatting on here.
I won't cancel. He either likes me or he doesn't right. I have to meet new people everyday at work and I'm fine. This....I'm so so nervous.
Thankyou everyone smile

Kirsty67 Fri 06-May-16 20:44:24

Dont forget to let us all know how it goes...😊

exWifebeginsat40 Fri 06-May-16 20:44:59

make sure someone knows where you are and check in with them once you know you're staying for the date..

I met my DP on POF 2 years ago. good luck!

Seeyounearertime Fri 06-May-16 20:48:50

Op, don't forget the first thing to do when you meet.
Sit him down, tell him to smile, take a picture,
"It's to show everyone on Mumsnet"

justdontevenfuckingstart Fri 06-May-16 20:49:08

Just go and be yourself! Date might not be as described either (has happened more than once) Have fun, be open and if it's not for you 'thankyou and take care was nice meeting you' I can emergency pm you if required lol.

gemsangels123 Fri 06-May-16 20:57:06

Awww thankyou all smile
I will definitely let you know how it goes.
Meeting naturally would be so much easier. I'm gonna be brave.
Thanks all for the advice. I hope I'm really chilled. It's not like I can drink wine to calm my nerves. This is normal I guess.

AutumnRose1988 Fri 06-May-16 20:57:11

Op, don't forget the first thing to do when you meet.
Sit him down, tell him to smile, take a picture,
"It's to show everyone on Mumsnet"

Haha lol xxx

gemsangels123 Fri 06-May-16 20:59:48

😂😂😂I know I laughed at that too. Can you imagine?

AutumnRose1988 Fri 06-May-16 20:59:56

gems what you are feeling is totally normally but please please don't let it get the better of you! Just go dressed how you do when you know you feel your best and if in doubt, just smile and be honest about being a bit nervous. Nice men love to put a date at ease and he will be flattered because it shows you haven't took one look and thought "woof!" Xx

AutumnRose1988 Fri 06-May-16 21:00:31

Haha I know - saw that post and could just imagine how she said it as well..dead funny hehe xxx

gemsangels123 Fri 06-May-16 21:04:47

Ok, thankyou Autumn Rose smile
I will try to be myself. Hate being judged. Are we being judged do you think?

AutumnRose1988 Fri 06-May-16 21:10:45

Kind of but you are there to judge him too and hopefully if he is a fab fella that feeling will fall away in a few minutes but if you do feel judged then he is a bit of a tool and you just need to hop outta the toilet window haha xxxx

pocketsaviour Fri 06-May-16 21:11:08

Of course you'll be judged. That's what a first date is about - it's to judge whether you like the other person!

gemsangels123 Fri 06-May-16 21:25:30

Hmm scary stuff! Hate being judged!
Haha ok I will check out the toilet window on arrival 😂

Seeyounearertime Fri 06-May-16 21:29:00

Don't drink too much is also good advice.
One of my first dates I got a little bit too squiffy.... so squiffy the pizza I had made a reappearance later that night, needless to say my date didn't make a reappearance.

gemsangels123 Fri 06-May-16 21:34:53

Haha oh no 🙈 I don't mean to laugh 🙊
I am driving so no worries smile

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