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SocialDisaster Fri 06-May-16 18:30:56

I joined a group with a common interest. I feel such a fool. I thought we were working towards a common goal and I have worked out one sub group sabotaged one person within the group. I also noticed they are all FB friends and it's only me and another who has poor English left out.

I feel foolish. I missed the sabotage going on,I thought it was a genuine issue at first. I offered help to the sabotaged group and someone within the group blocked me.

I also didn't pick up I was to be tolerated and used by them as I am not good enough to be FB friends. I have seen them eye roll at someone else and they are friends with that person, so goodness knows what they do to me behind my back.

I feel stupid and embarrassed. I am going to back away. I can't fully avoid them through. How do you deal with the embarrassing feelings?

Iamdobby63 Fri 06-May-16 18:55:01

You shouldn't be embarrassed, they should be ashamed.

SocialDisaster Fri 06-May-16 19:02:03

I am not helping any more. I have a project I would like to complete. I will work with one of them on that. This one most likely knows what went on. I don't know where their loyalty lies as they are close to the saboteurs. Once when I was in a shop they avoided me, so I am wary of them too. I won't say anything to them, just do what needs doing.

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach Fri 06-May-16 19:02:05

You're well off out of there and well done for seeing them for what they are. Don't feel embarrassed, feel proud that you have the sense to back away smile

SocialDisaster Fri 06-May-16 19:08:54

I think I am humiliated at being scoffed at or whatever it was, they thought of me, I am clearly not FB friends material.

The thing is I think the one that was sabotaged is probably now working out they were as I am working out he was too. He was all best mates with them and I wasn't good enough to be a FB friend like them and I am backing away over what they did to him.

I put in work to help them all and we all lost out. Only the saboteurs benefited.

I feel so upset.

Iamdobby63 Fri 06-May-16 19:34:41

Would you really want to be friends with them?

SocialDisaster Fri 06-May-16 19:43:20

I feel disappointed mainly for the common goal being ruined for everyone, except the one person and their allies. The one person is the one everyone else rolls their eyes at.

I was never bothered about being FB friends until I realised they had excluded me. I guess I feel rejected.

I am going to spend my time and energy elsewhere. I feel hurt and humiliation along with disappointment.

springydaffs Fri 06-May-16 21:27:36

Social disaster?

Well no. They behaved like shits. Which is nothing to do with you or your worth as a human being.

What sort of adults have a little clique and get off on excluding others? It's just playground stuff.

You really really are on the wrong track to be feeling humiliated. Come on love, you've done nothing wrong AT ALL, just been a normal human being who happened to come in contact with a bunch of dicks.

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