I started a new job at the start of last week. I am working closely with a team of 4 other girls (admin team, open plan office so have to talk regularly). For the first week all was fine, and at the end of the week there was some chatting amongst them about the men who work in the office.
I said John is cute (not that I fancy the man, far from it, just a sweet and helpful guy who has made me feel welcome). One girl in my team, Amy, said laughing "Yeah dont even go there, he is my really good friend and i would hate that!" The rest of the girls laughed, I thought it was a bit strange to be honest but didn't say anything. And I have a boyfriend which she knows so it shouldn't have even been an issue.
Amy went on holiday at the start of this week, and yesterday John asked me to go for a coffee at lunch which I agreed to. This information has somehow made its way to her on holiday and she is FUMING, has been Whatsapping the rest of the team saying I am a bitch and spiteful etc.
She is back tomorrow and I really do not know how to deal with this. Shall I say nothing? Apologise? I really do not think I have DONE anything wrong, this is like playground style drama and it's pathetic. She doesn't own this man, has never dated him or anything even so this possessiveness is quite strange. Or should I have just stayed away from him because she said so?
To be honest, I have known her a week so even if they HAD dated and I was single, it is MY choice to date/go for a drink/lunch/coffee with whoever I choose, I have no loyalties to this woman.
It all seems so immature and ridiculous, I refuse to engage in any silly arguments but I don't the fact she is bitching about me now to the rest of the team..
Please tell me what I should do, really worried about seeing her tomorrow.
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Issue with new colleague, what do I do?
cjt88lulu · 05/05/2016 13:51
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