A long story, which I won't tell as I will only get very upset - again. But the upshot is that my H wants to leave and is making plans (partly behind my back) to move into a new place. He says he has been unhappy for years and our marriage is the cause of his unhappiness. He doesn't know if he wants to even try to work it out and I am not going to plead or try to persuade as I feel that any 'work' would need to be on a shared basis. Do I want to work on things? - well, yes, but not if the outcome is going to be the same and the pain for me and the kids merely stretched out. In my mind I am decided that if he moves out, there is no way back for him, although I have not said this as that would be tantamount to blackmail. I want to conduct myself in the most dignified way possible. This is important to me. But inside, I feel as if I am dying. I have spoken to nobody about what is happening and actually feel that there is no one I CAN speak to. I feel very alone. I have said this to my H and all he says is that he has felt alone for years. He is talking to others - professional people and others - I know he is. Any advice on managing my feelings and getting through this - for me and the kids?
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