DH and I went through a very difficult patch after DC1 was born. Partly this was due to the usual issues of competitive sleep deprivation and isolation etc, and partly due to other family-related issues which have now been resolved with the help of a counsellor.
However, we can feel ourselves starting to snipe at each other again and I just can't go back to that awful time when I wasn't sure whether we would be ok. He is a very good man and I love him very much. I don't think I can risk putting us under that sort of strain again - we got "stretched" a bit the first time around and I am afraid that it would take less to break us this time. I am drsperately sad at the thought of not having a second DC. Has anyone else made the same decision? Is it perhaps not that unusual?
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Had anyone else decided not to have a second DC primarily to avoid the strain on their relationship?
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Whatatotalmess · 02/05/2016 08:08
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