Can I please have some views on whether this is normal. My parents hardly get in touch and leave me to get on with things, but are there if I need them. Therefore its difficult to know how acceptable my Mother-in-Law's behaviour is, as she is the opposite.
My husband and I are falling out over his mother. I feel she micro-managed his life when young and as a result he finds it difficult to organise himself. I also think she got used to him being single (for 8 yrs) before he met me, when she enjoyed a very close relationship with him.
When we visit her or she comes to our house I feel she makes rude interfering comments - tells me my house is cluttered and advises on how I should organise it in detail. She disproves of some of the ways we discipline our daughter and undermines me in front of her (she wants me to always give in to my daughter's demands - basically no discipline).
I could list the little things she does that are irritating forever.
However, my husband thinks she is perfect. He gets very uncomfortable if I criticise her and tries to claim I'm mis-reading her.
He used to talk to her on the phone every day, but now its roughly once or twice a week. (She lives far away, but we see her prob every 6 weeks).
What riles me is that his conversations with her are long (30-45 mins) and detailed. I can hear her quizzing him about everything we are doing and then giving him her opinion, which I presume she presumes we will follow.
These phone calls wind me up. I feel she's interfering. He says its me who has the problem and there is nothing unusual in men speaking in depth with their mothers.
Btw Ive noticed she gets annoyed if she discovers I know something - like an award he won at work for example - and he had not yet told her. I think this is weird.
Am I being unreasonable?
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LPickers · 29/04/2016 21:20
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