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One of the most perceptive pieces I've ever read about abusive, controlling relationships - how to recognise one, why its happening to you, what to do about it. Just a few quotes:
'Minimising his outrageous behaviour with: “all relationships have their ups and downs” will keep you in the shitty relationship you are in.'
'You are being victimised. I’m all for boundaries, but they are futile against a bulldozer.'
'But he’s not doing it because he’s drunk, stressed, insecure, had a terrible cheating ex, is mentally ill, or because his mother dropped him on his head when he was a baby. He’s doing it because he feels he has a right to do it. This is because he has certain beliefs about women which are fully supported by our culture. He’s a misogynist – simple.'
'I still don’t know what love is, but I know it’s not warm and fuzzy feelings – it’s actions, it’s what you do.' Yes yes YES - a thousand times yes to this, and it applies to all relationships, not just romantic ones
Brilliant stuff.
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Excellent article about abusive relationships
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Lottapianos · 29/04/2016 09:18
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