Ok, so,
Hi! This is my first time using mumsnet! I felt the need to ask this question to see if this is something that's happened to other mothers with their mother-in-laws.
Ok! So I just came back from the dreaded visit to the mother-in-laws. There has been a slight atmosphere. No idea why. Maybe I have done something that displeases them.
My mother and father-inlaw keep a pristine home. I'm talking show home standard... Like you don't want to sit down incase a cushion falls out of its perfect position. she has a sideboard with a select number of family photos. Very select. There is a picture of my husband and I's wedding. Without me in it. Just all of his family. Even his sister's boyfriend. No bride. Anyway, there is a picture of their wedding (rightly so), a picture of their other grand-son and my little one's cousin graduating from nursery, a picture of him again playing about, a picture of my little one with him, and well a full picture of my little one as a baby. She is now two, and at this visit, I noticed (quite blatantly obvious) that my girl's picture has been taken out the same frame and replaced with her other grandson's new school photo.
So am I right to be upset?! My daughter isn't being represented in their family. There is only one picture of her, and it's only there because he's in it.
They have never liked me, but I have always tried. I'm the one who pesters my husband to see them as he never does. They never ask to watch my daughter and barely take any interest in her development. They just like to talk about their other grandson. I had a terrible relationship with my father's side of the family. And I don't want the same to happen to my daughter.
Every time we go up there fr them to watch her, it just seems like such a chore to them. I'm constantly being reminded of how her grandson did this at this age and how my daughter should be starting this. I'm sick of it.
The biggest thing that has happened recently with them, was my husband and I moving furniture from our house to our new house, we needed them to take our wee one for a few hours at most, but they refused because they needed "peace and quiet" yet the very same day they were roped into watching their other grandchild.
I feel this very unfair. They were taking over everything from the beginning but now my baby is a toddler they have just stopped taking interest. They are bored with her now.
Anyway, thoughts would be greatly appreciated because I'm really upset about this. Want some reassurance.
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LadyPoppet · 28/04/2016 19:54
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