So anyone who is privy to my other theads/posts knows I am currently OLDing. They will also know I am quite openly looking for a causal arrangements or posibly a FWB (if I find the right person). Mainly because I have very little free time, loving being free to explore the world again and if I am honest have very serious trust issues from my previous marriage.
Anyway all is going well and I had a lovely causal experience last night. The trouble is there is this one girl I am talking to on OLD. She is smart, very attractive and funny. Met her on Tinder. Made things very clear (as always) what I am after. She said she was after something serious. So I thought fair enough, nice to meet you end of the line. Anyway we kept talking and we are both single parents who have been in abusive relationships. We have a lot of shared values and if I wanted to share my life again with someone she would potentially be a good candidate. I told her again that I did not want a relationship. She said my story had reduced her to tears and she could see I am such a good sweet man. It's such a shame I did want anything serious she said. I have a lot of respect for her as she has been through hell and come out the other side. She asked me then can we be friends? I said OK, let's have a pot of tea and some cake sometime.
The trouble is I am not sure if I have done the right thing. Like I say I think she would make a good friend. I have loads of good friends but non who are single parents. Love to have a friend who know where I am coming from. But I am not sure if her offer of friendship come with an motive. She has messaged me saying this:
Your so cute ... I wish you was ready for a girl.
I think we would be great together ...
2 nice people looking after eachother & all our babies lol x
Now is it me or is this a little strong? I mean she did put lol at the end. Maybe it's my trust issues making me paranoid?
Do I entertain a friendship with her or is she clearly wanting more for me than i am ready to give. If so do I call off the whole thing?
Or am I shooting the goose that laid the golden egg. She appears to be great relationships material and so intelligent. I know this is a little shallow but the fact she is hot is also muddying my judgement.
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