I'm a 40 something transgender female and have to say overall been blessed in life as I've travelled the long and emotional road of transition..! Yes there's been the usual ups (becoming me) and downs (losing certain family and friends who can't accept it).
Have a long term relationship with a man whom I love dearly and loves me (or at least I hope he does, warts and all!). Overall his family are fab (his sister has become dear friend to me) but his Dad OMG am I ever going to be able to get on with him.
Basically he is very judgemental, sheltered and homophobic (even though I class myself at heterosexual being a woman in love with a man!) and he finds every opportunity to make me feel uncomfortable and make crude and inappropriate comments whenever I see him. Came to a head this weekend just gone as my bf left me with him whilst he took a friend to the airport, talk about uncomfortable! He seems to think he can talk to me as if I am still a male even though I look female and doesn't seem to get that am I now a woman. He never even knew me in my previous life. He started asking me about my past life and what football team I supported and what did I look like (I think he took advantage whilst bf wasn't there). I just kept saying to him that my life then was then and now is now. He commented on my clothes too (I was wearing denim skirt) and said did I make the out of my 'boy' jeans!!! All very childish and weird.
I've had the odd comment from his mum about our sex life when I first met her but took that as being simply the generation that don't always say the right thing but this is different, creepy almost.
I haven't mentioned anything to bf as I feel silly but wonder if I should have a heart to heart to see if he can talk to his dad. It's the only thing in my relationship with him that is spoiling things.
Not sure whether I'm overreacting or not.
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So I'm TG! Get over it!
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SarahGoodwin33 · 27/04/2016 15:44
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