NC but a reg. I Thought me and DP had a great relationship and a lovely family (young DD). We've had our ups and downs, mainly due to his bipolar which led to us breaking up whilst he was manic and I was pregnant, and then some tough times while he was depressed and I had a newborn. However for the past year or so we've been just perfect or so I thought.
Sometimes I do moan because he just won't tidy his own shit up. I don't expect him to do much, but i think tidying up after yourself is just basic manners. A couple of weeks ago he got in a big fit about this, said he wasn't going to give me an excuse to moan any more and spent a few days putting on wash after wash (but not putting them away so was hardly the most taxing or useful housework he could have been doing). Anyway he did this with so much venom and annoyance that I said not to bother and I would prefer to go back to normal.
Fast forward a couple of weeks, we both ended up going out on Sunday.. Had a lovely time, though he spent more money than he would have liked. Monday evening out of the blue he starts calling me a slag and other horrible names. Tuesday he tells me he hates me and wants to break up.
He said he couldn't move out for 2 weeks, but I said no. If he wants to be so horrible, he will have to go today (only my name on the tenancy). I asked him for a reason, he said it was because I moaned too much.
But then before we went out on Sunday he said all the time that we were his world, his everything, he loved me forever etc etc
Personally I think it's either a comedown off the Coke he took Sunday, or his bipolar is sending him manic again and he's not thinking straight.
I know this doesn't excuse anything, but it's so hard to not wish he would just change his mind, apologise and everything could go back to normal.
When will it get easier? This is my first proper break up. Need a kick up the bum please but not too hard
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DP has just split up with me out of the blue
JjustBrokenUp · 27/04/2016 15:08
Am I having a senior moment or did I post on this same thread earlier this afternoon?? Where you were given some tough but sensible advice.
Why do you say op didn't like the answers on other thread, Nanny? I've just had a look and she hasn't posted.
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