I know it's a bit wimpy to ask a theoretical question and ask that you be kind... but patience would be appreciated. This isn't intended as a criticism of advice on this board - far from it - but rather a desire to understand. Likewise it's not criticism of anyone's choice.
It seems to me that posters are often challenged on what children are learning from being raised by parents in a relationship that isn't entirely happy. But I wonder what children with separated/divorced parents learn. Don't they lose all security? Don't they learn love isn't forever? Won't they always know that someone they love could leave any time. Can they really understand the difference between parents love for each other and parents love for a child? I think it's all family to a child and they may feel that all relationships, including those they have with their parents are vulnerable. Don't they experience one of the worse forms of loss early on?
I'm rambling. I just don't think the flip side of the issue gets answered. Maybe that's because these are obvious thoughts. After all there are repeated posts about staying together for the children.
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What are children learning about relationships and love when parents separate?
serialangstyposter · 25/04/2016 23:01
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