DH and I have been together for 14 years, married for 8. We have 2 DCs together who are 10 and 6, and I have a DD from a previous relationship, who is 16.
My issue is that over the years, DH has literally just become so moody and 'meh' about everything. He never seems to want to do anything family orientated apart from a holiday once a year and he always puts himself first. He doesn't particularly do anything with the children, or anything in the house. He'll do a bit of DIY once in a while but then leaves it unfinished.
Weekends are the worst. All he wants to do is sit around watching box sets or films or sports. He'll get up, and then get himself something to eat and lounge around all the time. Yet if I take the DCs out and do something he gets moody about that. When he's watching TV he just zones out and may as well not be there as he doesn't listen to any of us and won't even get the youngest child a drink! He just doesn't seem 'in' to family life.
There are just so many things that he does, or rather doesn't do, that annoy me or upset me. If I try to talk to him about how I feel he turns it into an argument then says it's me that's trying to argue.
He doesn't do any housework or laundry, that's all seen as 'my' job even though I work every day in school hours and run my own small business from home.
I guess I am just fed up of him lolling around, in a messy room, not interacting with me or the children. He wasn't like this at first but has gradually become more and more like this after having our second child together.
I just feel so alone even though I'm in a relationship, and don't know where to go from here. I just feel I want more from life :-/
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Married but feel so lonely. DH is just so 'meh' about everything
ambergreenred · 25/04/2016 09:12
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