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Found friends bf on dating site...

15 replies

DisneySenior · 23/04/2016 00:45

Should I tell her?

I received a message from a man who was pretty direct and asked if I was interested in meeting him for nsa sex. I usually delete those kind of messages but I thought I recognised the profile picture so I had a nose and it's definitely my friends bf.

He is using a slightly different name but has same pics as his fb.

She has been with him for about 3 months and is utterly besotted. She is so happy and im not sure what to do.

Should I say something? We aren't that close.

I didn't reply to his message either

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MsMims · 23/04/2016 00:49

I would take screenshots incase he denies it, then tell her. In her shoes, I'd want to know. 3 months in, she can walk away relatively unscathed.

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DisneySenior · 23/04/2016 00:50

That's exactly what I have done. I have copies of everything. I would probably want to know if it was my other half.

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TheNaze73 · 23/04/2016 00:55

Are they in an exclusive relationship?

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haveacupoftea · 23/04/2016 00:56

She needs to know. Sorry Flowers

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kitz123 · 23/04/2016 00:58

Just show her what he messaged you and the rest is up to her

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DisneySenior · 23/04/2016 01:03

Yeah definitely exclusive, just back from a holiday together, spend a lot of time together etc. I will send the screenshots tomorrow.

I feel awful :(

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Mrskeats · 23/04/2016 14:11

I know but not your fault and its best she knows now before she gets even more involved
What a sleaze
Poor you horrible situation but what if she finds out in the future that you knew?

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dillydotty · 23/04/2016 14:17

Could you show her her how to search for photos on the Web? If she searches for one of the Facebook photos of him it will pick up any sites he has used that photo on.

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TheCrumpettyTree · 23/04/2016 14:20

Yes you need to tell her: it's only been three months. Can you imagine if she found out in a year? Do it now before she gets more involved.

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TheNaze73 · 23/04/2016 14:29

If they're exclusive, you owe it to her. It's only been 3 months

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ImperialBlether · 23/04/2016 14:36

I can never understand the kind of idiot who goes online looking for clandestine sex and posts a photo of himself!

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ALaughAMinute · 23/04/2016 14:43

Ever heard of shooting the messenger?

I'd stay out of it if I were you?

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WordGetsAround · 23/04/2016 14:47

I would let her know someone is using her boyfriend's picture for dating purposes! They can sort out the rest.

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RaeSkywalker · 23/04/2016 14:49

I'd say you'd got a message and you think it might be from him.

You need to tell her- if she finds out further down the line she will most likely be far more hurt.

The other option would be telling him he has a couple of days to tell her himself, or you will. I don't like that option though- he's likely to try and make you look like he bad guy.

What an awful situation to be in!

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Hissy · 23/04/2016 15:51

You did the right thing love. Friends first.

He's just a bloke.

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