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I'm worried about our future

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VikiC Fri 22-Apr-16 18:45:29


This is a long story so I will try and keep it short and I hope someone can help.

Me and my partner are/were together for 2 years. I had a miscarriage last February and I got PTSD from it. So I have been on ESA. I have been to counciling and had anti depressants.

Well last month my partner left to go back home (Hungary) to get treatment for his back. All was well for the first 2 weeks we skyped daily. But now he ignores me all of the time he's either busy or tired apparently he has gone to relax with his friends overnight now.

I am supposed to be going there next month too.

He was supposed to come back to my house when he returns to the UK bt he told me "I don't want to go back to your house unless I really have to. I want you to move with me but if you don't have work when I am back we are over I am not supporting you y are not living off me"
When he was off sick I supported him and let him move in with me until he had money to go home...

I really don't know what to do. I don't feel ready to go back to work yet and even if I was that leaves me a few months to find work which isn't possible.

My gut is telling me to leave. I spend all day and everyday crying. I can't eat or sleep. I feel so lonely and lost.

Someone give me some advise please

blueberrypie0112 Fri 22-Apr-16 18:48:00

I would ditch him. It shouldn't matter. If he think you would "use him" like that, he is not worth keeping.

VikiC Fri 22-Apr-16 18:56:51

Oh I should also add: He said this because I need "motivation"

pallasathena Fri 22-Apr-16 19:18:24

Please tell him to stop contacting you. You don't need this type of person in your life. If you feel lonely and unhappy its because you've likely become dependant on him for a sense of wellbeing - but he doesn't make you feel good does he?
Try and be strong. End the relationship, get well again and make plans to move your life forward in a meaningful direction without him.
You'll meet someone much better in time but first, you have to distance and detach yourself from a nasty piece of work who is trying to control, manipulate and disrespect you. You are worth so much more o/p. I hope you realise that and take control yourself.
Men who behave so callously, so disrespectfully, do not have a place in your life. And if you allow him back in, then you're setting yourself up for a future full of heartache, misery and regret. Cut the ties that bind, be strong and look forward to a life on your terms not his.

blueberrypie0112 Fri 22-Apr-16 19:18:55

You are not a child And he does not need to withhold his relationship with you either.

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