I need advice. My husband and I have been together for nearly 10 year 2 of which married. We had a planned pregnancy but at 23 weeks he suddenly turns to me and tells me he is unhappy and I'm the problem. I don't understand where it has come from. Because we had been more couply more affectionate and had been spending more time together and seemed stronger than ever before, seemed happier too. Then he comes out with he's been unhappy for awhile and I've not seen it or tried to help him. He always used to say that he was unhappy in his job, and I would offer support and advice each time. He never said he was unhappy with in our relationship, not until he kicked me out. Now I am homeless, disabled and heavily pregnant. I have nothing. I am sleeping at my mums but can't stay with the baby due to the house being full already. I have nothing. No money to get into private renting, and still waiting on social housing. Which in reluctant to take as the areas are very rough and unsafe and I fear for me and the baby. I'm scared and I feel very stressed and alone.
What makes it worse is that he is still talking to me, still claims he loves me and misses me but isn't sure if he is "in love" with me. He says that he will always be there for me to help and support me but he doesn't know what he wants from the relationship. I don't know what to do. I want my marriage to work and I want to be a family but he has hurt me so much and is currently messing with my head so much that I can barely think. Non of this make sense to me. I don't know what to do. Please help.
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8months pregnant, separated and very confuse!
Becky465 · 21/04/2016 23:00
Why have you moved out when he has no right whatsoever to make you homeless?
You've said he 'kicked you out' but, as you are married to this callous attention seeking twat, you have as much legal right to stay in the marital home as he does and I suggest you move back and tell the poor diddums that if he's dissatisfied with your marriage he can fuck off find alternative accomodation as it should be patently obvious to him that your need for a stable roof over your head is far greater than his.
Jeez, who does he think he is? Master of all he surveys? It's time to disabuse him of that particular notion and if he can't shape up, he can ship out of your life and leave you to raise his planned dc alone - and I have no doubt that once you're settled again you'll be a wonderful, and wonderfully happy, single parent
With regard to your housing application, it can't be said that all council/social housing is situated in rough/unsafe areas and it can be the case that what some may consider to be a 'rough' area has a more sociable/thriving community than other seemingly more desirable areas, but in any event the fact that you have a disability should have some bearing on the type of property and location you are allocated.
Many councils have resorted to renting private accomodation to house those who are in urgent need and I also suggest you make contact with Shelter //www.shelter.org.uk/ who may be able to advocate on your behalf or suggest an organisation or charity local to you who can do so. If you don't intend to kick him out move back to the marital home, you're best advised to pull out all the stops to advance your application by getting your midwife/antenatal team, GP, local ward councillors etc on the case and copy all correspondence to your MP.
If you're on a council waiting list you can be nominated to a housing association and I suggest you have a scout around the areas you would like to live in to see if there are any new builds/renovations under way that have a billboard showing the name of a housing association and give them a call.
That said, imo you should seek legal advice from a solicitor who specialises in divorce and family law with a view to becoming the sole occupant of the marital home - Shelter may also be able to advise you in this respect.
I reckon something's been added to the water supply as there are a number of other OPs with current threads whose partners have also abandoned them late in pregnancy and you'll be in good company on this board.
Take heart, OP. It WILL get better and you'll always find support and encouragement here 24/7.
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