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I feel like I don't know my own husband

(11 Posts)
Sam221241 Thu 21-Apr-16 15:17:07

Nc for this....Me and dh been together 5 year married 2, I feel like I don't know him and I've been stupid and rushed too much because of 'love'.... There's stupid little things like different women's numbers in his phone (who he's never texted) but keeps for some reason, he deleted all His unused contacts he said the other day and he's kept about 5 females that I don't know I've never met them. He used to have a lot of friends but now doesn't really see them. I also found male porn on his phone? He said he just likes looking at it sometimes.... I never knew of that before. I just feel like I don't know him at all I sometimes don't know whether to believe the things he says either as he's lied about money. Am I overreacting?

Marchate Thu 21-Apr-16 15:20:04

Sadly, it sounds like lies are his specialist subject

gamerchick Thu 21-Apr-16 15:23:22

Are they actually woman though or men's numbers with a woman's name? The porn would make me wonder.

TheNaze73 Thu 21-Apr-16 16:17:47

Poor you, in hindsight you do sound like you rushed in getting married so soon but, love dies different things to different people. He shouldn't have secrets from you.

TheNaze73 Thu 21-Apr-16 16:18:01

Does not dies

Maturecheddarcheese Thu 21-Apr-16 16:20:30

Did you ask him who the numbers were? Is he secretive? You sound like you don't trust him at all which is a bit of a killer for a relationship.

BrowncoatsUnite Thu 21-Apr-16 16:35:21

Are you having any time to yourselves? Maybe arranging date nights to realight the romance and just get to talk about yourselves to help?

Sam221241 Thu 21-Apr-16 17:00:37

Yeah he says old people he worked with etc but he won't delete them, I don't understand why? I don't trust him because he doesn't tell me the truth I don't know why? I feel like I mustn't be good enough for him

BrowncoatsUnite Thu 21-Apr-16 17:03:31

Why do you know what's on his phone?

Sam221241 Thu 21-Apr-16 17:41:10

Because I use his phone?

goddessofsmallthings Thu 21-Apr-16 18:34:28

I feel like I mustn't be good enough for him

If he's not telling yiou the truth it's either because he thinks you're too good for him or he's got nothing but contempt for you, and lying over money suggests the latter.

Does he also have female porn on his phone/computer?

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