This is my first post on here. Trying to keep it short... My husband and I have been married for 5 years, have 2 children together and I am 7 months pregnant with our third..
Our relationship has mainly been very good, though there have been times when he will flip out for no reason, he has walked out his family a few times (only for a day or so.) When I fell pregnant with our 2nd son he was very unpleasant and made the whole pregnancy really tough for me.. (he loves our son to bits now) but because of all this things got very hard and I left him last February.
He wrote me a long letter saying how sorry he was for everything and how he would do anything to make me happy again. He saw a doctor and was put on tablets for depression and anxiety. Things got a little better.
I finally felt a bit happier and really felt content in my marriage, then a few weeks ago he went to Norwich to visit a client with work (he travels a lot with work) I was at home with our children and I sat down to watch something on our ipad and noticed a message had come through on there (it is linked with his phone.) The message looks a bit strange so I opened and looked through, basically it said
'Hi do you have any appointments today.'
'No sorry I am booked today'
'That's a shame, you made a real impression on me last time ;-)'
'Sorry who is this'
'My name is I came to see you a few months ago, shame your busy today I was really hoping for a full hour this time :-)'
I googled the number and it came up with a 49 year old female escort who promised to give you full body to body contact massage and an explosive orgasm'
I phoned my husband straight away. He said we'd discuss when he got home... 30 minutes later he got home and his excuse was that he has a foot fetish and he rubbed this ladies feet.. (which just makes me feel sick) but clearly I don't think that would be all he got up to..
Obviously he didn't get a chance to see her that time but he had been before and god knows how many other ladies he has seen.
Anyway I was devastated, furious etc, he slept on the settee for one night, said he would never ever do anything like this again and then I decided to forgive him.
He has been trying really hard since but its 3 weeks later and I am just so messed up by it all...it doesn't help that I'm pregnant and hormonal but I just cant trust him at all and I'm not sure if I ever will... Am I being a complete idiot. He is a natural liar and I just no longer believe a word he says and constantly worry about what he's up to when he is out/at work.... WWYD!??
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essieestherson · 20/04/2016 14:45
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