I need your help as I don't know if I am unreasonable here or not.
Been with bf 3yrs, not living together. He has one dc who lives abroad and he goes and sees him every other weekend and stays with ex. She's in another relationship which I know for a fact. I am fine with that, dc comes over every school holiday and I have met him plenty of times. Lovely lad and gets on with my dcs.
Now dc is coming over again but this time ex will come too as dc wished it. Only vague mention of this previously but bf did not really say anything for definite but then he's rubbish at planning ahead anyway.
I have not met her yet.
He's got it in his head we could all get on and go on days out etc as that's what he does with ex and her new bf when he visits dc abroad.
I am not comfortable of her staying in his house and playing happy families.
If I would meet her I would not feel at ease and constantly look at signs between them. They have been split for 6 yrs if you need to know.
And also would find it rather weird if after meeting they would go back together to his house and I'd be left going home alone. He suggested I could sleep over too but this would be so awkward.
I told him I won't be seeing them at all whilst they're over as I could not handle it. He says he understood but his face and body language did not agree and I wonder if he reconsiders our relationship now.
I have been hurt before when a previous went back to their ex so I guess my past experience does not help.
Has somebody else been in this situation? Would you be happy your partners ex would stay for a week?
I don't know what to do.
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puffyhair · 18/04/2016 20:54
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