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heart broken i been to nosey

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rachaela88 Fri 15-Apr-16 13:17:56

I been with my bf for nearly 4 years
I recently went on his phone and seen he was chating to half naked girls on Kik and pof saying he was single after having it out with him I asked him to stay but 2 weeks later he's still chatting to girls, for 3 months he has been sleeping on my sofa his own choice that's when I thought something has been going on, I'm so heart broken and don't no what to do I have a baby with him and his son stays with us on weekends, I dunno how I will cope if he leaves I feel so alone and down I can't snap out of this I done everything for him and he just lies and chats up others and ignores me, I haven't Even had a cuddle in weeks, my head says kick him out my heart is saying see if it gets better

BolshierAryaStark Fri 15-Apr-16 13:25:29

Listen to your head because your heart will do you no favours.
He sounds like a grade A twat, you'll be well rid. Don't put up with this shit because you think you can't cope-you can & will.
Kick him out.

rachaela88 Fri 15-Apr-16 13:33:30

Thanks, my nerves have gotten really bad thinking about it all, I'm usually happy and up beat but I just keep filling up with tears because I've done so much for him and he won't even talk to me and tell me the truth even when I say do h want to leave he will say I dunno ... Like why not just answer the question I told him I'll be fine if u wanna just go but nothing

Jan45 Fri 15-Apr-16 14:21:17

He will leave when he gets the opportunity, he's using you OP, really badly, please stand up for yourself, surely living without him is preferable, he's putting you through shit and doesn't care, you will feel a lot better in yourself if you are actually the one to tell him to go.

MyKingdomForBrie Fri 15-Apr-16 14:24:31

Kick him out!! You weren't 'nosey' you obviously had suspicions from his weird behaviour. Much better that you know and now you can take control and get rid of him. Just pack his bags and tell him you will let him know what he owes in CM each month.

rachaela88 Fri 15-Apr-16 14:35:27

I got a feeling he won't bother with baby after he's gone, he has his son on weekends and I do everything for him, I no I got to Chuck him out but he will go to his mums round the corner and I'll have to see him all the time, it just hurts so Much everyone I used to bother with said not to get with him, I just need a kick up the bum I suppose to get him out

whataboutbob Fri 15-Apr-16 16:16:52

Rachela I don't usually go on relationships but I saw this and just want to say you will be so much better off without this guy, who from everything you've written can only be a nasty, selfish user. I know what it's like to be cheated on and how low it can make you feel, and how you can think you'll never find better. I'm guessing you're quite young, at any rate you will find better than him. Its sad he won't be around for the baby, but he sounds like a very lousy Dad and your child will probably be better off without him anyway.
Do you have support- friends, family? Turn to them, not to this parasite, the sooner he clears off the sofa the better.

Ciggaretteandsmirnoff Fri 15-Apr-16 16:21:24

jan45 post is spot on.

op Dig deep and find the energy and strength to get this cling on out of your house/life. Your mental health will improve dramatically.

EElisavetaOfBelsornia Fri 15-Apr-16 16:24:21

I agree with whataboutbob - being cheated on messes with your mind and shatters your self esteem. It's so hard when you're still reeling from this and have young children to look after, but it will be so much better if you act. You will cope just fine on your own, and you'll find your belief in yourself grows every day without him there sapping it. So sorry you're going through this. You DO deserve better.

rachaela88 Fri 15-Apr-16 16:24:30

I feel like I got no1 and I'm so worried about money, he stopped my bothering with my friends at the beginning and I been so loyal to him, I can see what your both saying I just need to pull myself together and do it thanks

CocktailQueen Fri 15-Apr-16 16:27:00

Listen to your head.

Get rid of this lazy, disrespectful cocklodger. Seriously.

whataboutbob Fri 15-Apr-16 16:40:27

He doesn't deserve your loyalty or your time. we can only say it again, get rid. He will only drag you down further and further. Ask him to get out and you are taking control of the situation.

rachaela88 Fri 15-Apr-16 17:10:36

Okay I'm gonna take control and ask him to leave thanks

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