I really can't talk about this to people in RL my head is all over the place.
My DH is lying to me about money. We are in the process of buying our first house, he has no money to put into it and has not tried to save anything. I went for the mortgage and we had to say what debts we had. I don't have any I'm very careful and save so I have the full deposit. He has been to uni so has the usual student debt so I told all of this to the mortgage advisor. Once we had credit checks done they said that we hadn't disclosed another overdraft he had and another credit card. They are not for massive amounts.
I told him straight away and he lied to my face said he didn't know anything about them and they must have got it wrong. A few weeks later I opened some post from the bank and there in black and white was the secret overdraft. I didn't say I had seen it but asked again and he again said he didn't know but would call the bank when I mentioned fraud. He told me he called them and it was an overdraft from years ago and there was £60 odd pound outstanding and he paid it off.
At the weekend he had a letter from a bank and he told me he looked at a loan but they couldn't do anything to better what he had. Today another letter so I opened it and it says he has a new loan with them and paid into his account!
I've decided to go forward with buying the house in just my name everything is approved and I can afford it.
I don't know what to do we have a 1 year old and it breaks my heart to think of splitting up our family. We do get on well, we don't argue but I do resent a lot as I paid our wedding in full, pay more a month towards bills and went back to work full time after 3 months of giving birth.
I don't get the lying I always try to help him out I don't judge, I understand debt my family have been in awful situations so I don't understand this and can't work out why as we don't have expensive cars, holidays, clothes etc
What would you do? X
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Husband is lying
blueberry04 · 14/04/2016 14:15
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