I think i'm done, i'm not 100% decided, but its looking likely.
We've been together 15yrs next month, and he is quite a bit older than me, we met when i was 20, and now i'm in my mid 30s, we just don't gel any more... I've changed too much, and so has he, and not for the better.
He's turned into a horrible, grumpy old man. I don't agree with his politics, his opinion on the refugees, or europe. He's horrible to pretty much everyone, and is making it more and more clear he doesn't like my family, to the point i can't mention them without having to listen to an hour long diatribe about his opinion on them, how they live their lives, how he disagrees with the choices they make, and how much he dislikes me spending time with them.
Quite frankly, if we met now, i wouldn't even give him a second glance, i don't fancy him, i don't want to sleep with him. I find his attitude towards me as a person, disrespectful. I feel controlled, everything has to be his way or no way. We bicker constantly. He is so shouty, he can't have a civil conversation with any one.
We did split briefly before, but tried again after councilling, and after another 5yrs i have had enough of going over the same arguments, feeling like i can't be me and constantly walking on eggshells because i haven't done something he expects me to do. That split was quite acrimonious and he ended up locking me out of the house to stop me taking anything else. (i didnt take anything that wasn't mine or the kids)
Money isn't an issue, i have about £5k left from an inheritance thats sitting in a relatives bank account, and access to more on an interest free loan (money off my mom who's 100% behind me) i'm not going to disappear in the next week, this is a long 'get out' game that i want to plan properly.
Its the practicalities of doing it that i'm stressing about.
How to deal with mine and the kids belongings. I don't want this house, or anything in it other than clothes, personal effects...etc.
DS is disabled and only just been awarded an EHCP, i dont want to move schools, but if i have to, how do i arrange it?
So, how do i do this as painlessly as possible for everyone. I don't want to fall out with him, and i'd like to keep it amicable, but i don't want to be married to him for much longer either!
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KittyCheshire · 09/04/2016 20:39
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