My DH and I are about to start marriage counseling on Monday. We are basically very happy, the issue we have had ongoing problems with is his mother's literal obsession with him. There is a very long back story but it has come to a head in the last 12 months as we moved back to his home nation. In case you think I must be awful, MIL spent 3 whole months staying with us/DH from Jan-Sept year.
We have finally begun to look at this issue seriously and DHs own role in it all. We live 12 hours away (thank God) but I asked her to come for 24 hours for our youngest child's 1st Holy Communion tomorrow. I am dreading it but just focussing on the fact that it is for DS who asked me if she was going to come.
Just for the record she has screamed and ranted at me in the past as well as chase me through my house so I had to lock myself in the bathroom to get away from her. She doesn't behave like this with witnesses outside the family (usually) so I think it should be fine. I just do not like to be around her for very long. I can put up boundaries but she has none.
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Hand holding please MIL arriving today
FrancisdeSales · 09/04/2016 19:02
to you!Thank you 
I don't have any family here but 30 people are coming tomorrow so that gives a good buffer.
You are not awful. My pils are hard work and put a strain on my marriage but she sounds toxic. Good luck. At least your dh seems to see your point of view.
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