I need a bit of help to word a text to my sister....It was her birthday this week, i sent her a happy birthday message but did not speak to her or send her a gift. (normally i would speak to her and then see her to give a gift when i next saw her)...This birthday i didn't. I have been feeling increasingly separated from her, ( and my other sister and parents) I am always the one to make contact, always the one to see if they are ok, to organise any get together. All contact starts with me, I do all the texting and calling. I have broached the subject and been told I am imagining it or they will make more of an effort, but they haven't. ( the rest of them all have VERY regual contact, a few times a week) I quite recently have had some medical issues, which i told them about. None of them have checked to see if I am doing ok. A few weeks ago i decided to stop making the effort. I haven't called them. I haven't text them. Shockingly since i have done that I have heard nothing from them. The day after her birthday i got a text telling me how disappointed in me she is. That a message just didn't cut it in her opinion but that she didn't want an argument. I decided not to reply, as i knew anything i replied would be very emotional and would lead to an argument.
I can see that i may have been childish by not calling her. BUT. I cant keep giving. Her message made it more than obvious that if it hadn't been her birthday she still wouldn't have got in contact. Its all about me letting her down by not calling her, I have been feeling let down for ages by her lack of care but i have just got on with it.
How do i articulate my feelings without sounding childish? ( which i can understand you thinking it is)
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mumcantmakeadecision · 09/04/2016 14:48
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