I'm 24, with one DS who is 6 and is SN.
DS dad is not a good dad to DS at all, he often fails to pick him up, he doesn't give me any child maintenance and he expects me to always come to my aid.
I haven't properly broken up with him, but the reason I decided to go NC/ minimal contact with him was because he would often call me if he wanted me to go round his place to have sex, we were together for 8/9 years, I asked him numerous of times to take me out but he would often refuse, or make up excuses.., also he was physical abusive towards me for a couple of years, and still continues to use threats. Yesterday, he even accused me of seeing another man after I refused to go to his place. This was before he told me that the reason why he didn't want to go out with DS and I was because he thought I wanted to show off to the world that we are a family.
Anyway, a couple of months ago I got pregnant while on the pill, I sadly decided to terminate the pregnancy as I didn't want to bring a child into our messed up relationship. But I'm starting to regret my decision and I think about my unborn baby every single day. DS dad knows that I'm still upset and has offered to give me another child. But I'm not so sure. It also doesn't help that one of my best friends is pregnant, and that all my friends around me are recently pregnant. It's just a constant reminder.
I was also wondering if a second child does fix a relationship, would he suddenly become a doting dad to both DS and his future child?
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Would having a second child make the relationship better
hollowintheriver · 09/04/2016 12:01
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